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Master Don Juan
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I was out on the weekend at a nightclub. An interesting girl caught my attention because she was staring at me at first. I looked back a little then kept speaking to my friends.
Later on, I kept doing the same thing. I would look up and she would be on the dance floor staring at me*.
I have an injured ankle so could not dance which is what I would normally do. She was with a guy but they did not look like a couple. No touching whatsoever that I noticed but the only times I really saw her was when she was staring at me. *about 4 or 5 times.
My friends (2 guys and 2 girls) went out on the Dance floor and I could not resist even though I could not move much. I went out for some fun. Next minute the girl and the guy (TG) are dancing next to us. * I did not see them beforehand dancing.
A michael Jackson song came on so my friend grabbed TG's leather jacket and gave it to one of the girls dancing with us. The girl in our company did some funky moves, passed the jacket to the other girl in the group who played around then it went back to the guy
*) The girl who I was looking at, tapped TG on the shoulder and seemed to be encouraging him to speak to one of my female friends. Not in a way that suggested to get the jacket back, more 'go on, speak to her'
The song finished so I then thanked the TG for kindly lending his jacket to my friend (my back was to the girl) and then left.
Questions
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1) Was the girl and TG a couple or a date? Would it matter? I did not want to intrude by speaking to her. What is the protocol, way of behaving, in this situation. Generally. I know some girls have their male friends who they like to go out with. Does this matter?
1)I rarely go out to clubs and have never approached a girl there. They usually approach me yet I am trying to redefine my ways*
* when you get approached only, you lose the opportunity to meet nice girls who would not approach a guy
Normally, it just sort of happens for me in that I say something to someone and a small conversation follows, I ask for her number or email and follow up later but I have not done this in a club.
Does one approach a girl in a club and say hi. I find it hard enough to talk as it is What about asking for a number in a club.
I appreciate these questions are very basic but the club is such an unknown environment to me.
2) She is with a guy so do you interrupt and introduce yourself? What is the protocol, range of acceptable behaviour in this situation.
3) Social question * What was this (*) behaviour above about? Any ideas or theories? I have a friend who takes her ex-bf out and tries to get him to meet women as she is guilty she dumped him and he is lonely and unhappy.
Was that happening in (*) Why else?
*interesting to me
4) Any other comments on this story. Please share!
Later on, I kept doing the same thing. I would look up and she would be on the dance floor staring at me*.
I have an injured ankle so could not dance which is what I would normally do. She was with a guy but they did not look like a couple. No touching whatsoever that I noticed but the only times I really saw her was when she was staring at me. *about 4 or 5 times.
My friends (2 guys and 2 girls) went out on the Dance floor and I could not resist even though I could not move much. I went out for some fun. Next minute the girl and the guy (TG) are dancing next to us. * I did not see them beforehand dancing.
A michael Jackson song came on so my friend grabbed TG's leather jacket and gave it to one of the girls dancing with us. The girl in our company did some funky moves, passed the jacket to the other girl in the group who played around then it went back to the guy
*) The girl who I was looking at, tapped TG on the shoulder and seemed to be encouraging him to speak to one of my female friends. Not in a way that suggested to get the jacket back, more 'go on, speak to her'
The song finished so I then thanked the TG for kindly lending his jacket to my friend (my back was to the girl) and then left.
Questions
----------
1) Was the girl and TG a couple or a date? Would it matter? I did not want to intrude by speaking to her. What is the protocol, way of behaving, in this situation. Generally. I know some girls have their male friends who they like to go out with. Does this matter?
1)I rarely go out to clubs and have never approached a girl there. They usually approach me yet I am trying to redefine my ways*
* when you get approached only, you lose the opportunity to meet nice girls who would not approach a guy
Normally, it just sort of happens for me in that I say something to someone and a small conversation follows, I ask for her number or email and follow up later but I have not done this in a club.
Does one approach a girl in a club and say hi. I find it hard enough to talk as it is
What about asking for a number in a club. I appreciate these questions are very basic but the club is such an unknown environment to me.
2) She is with a guy so do you interrupt and introduce yourself? What is the protocol, range of acceptable behaviour in this situation.
3) Social question * What was this (*) behaviour above about? Any ideas or theories? I have a friend who takes her ex-bf out and tries to get him to meet women as she is guilty she dumped him and he is lonely and unhappy.
Was that happening in (*) Why else?
*interesting to me
4) Any other comments on this story. Please share!