"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
approaching girl at gym
- Thread starter i am me
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
TheSplat
Master Don Juan
Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dedication
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Thats easy, but if i where to act like a nice guy i wouldn't know how to get them. Somebody here hasn't done his homeworki am me said:
Don Shinra
Don Juan
rushing dude 123
Master Don Juan
But if anyone wants to talk to a gym girl just say hi and think on ur toes with a bit of experience should do and if u don't have experience u r doing the same right thing because u need EXPERIENCE.
fertileTurtle
Master Don Juan
Plop your dong on the table and ask her if she wants that with her eggs.i am me said:
Your_Royal_Flyness
Don Juan
Give us some specifics...has she flirted with you? Has she noticed you? If so what happened? Did she smile at you or give you a blank stare?i am me said:
Assuming you don't look like a complete bum at the gym (always groom yourself, just in case you see a fine woman somewhere), see what her body language is like. If she is open to talking (isn't too busy, doesn't have a mean expression on her face, etc), walk up and say "Hello" and make small talk...like "How do you like working here?" or "What do you do when you're not at the gym?" ("How" and "Why" questions are key. Questions that lead to one word answers will kill the convo.) That can easily transition into what she does for fun. Then at the end of your conversation (which shouldn't last more than 3 - 4 minutes), tell her that she seems like a cool person and that you wouldn't mind hanging out with her one day. If she responds positively, leave her your number...hopefully you have a business card of some sort. (or at least exchange numbers). Then say, "It was nice meeting you...talk to you soon." And get back to your workout.
Hopefully you know what to do from here. Piece of cake. Good luck.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
TheRealSupreme
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I knew this was bullshyt. And ain't nuthin bytch like in getting upset over some sympin post like this. Especially from someone with 900 plus posts.i am me said:
It's bytch4ssness to even make a post like this just for kicks. Why waste someones time just cause you have no respect for your own?