When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
)..haha yeah i know, which is why i wanna try it, i really got nothing to lose, i'll never see her again anyway.San Jose California said:
yeah that does, thanks dirty d, lol wierd, my name's patrick.Dirty D said:Observer, I think I have a couple of good tips for you from my own "mall mackin'" days (hey, blame my friend Patrick for that weird name okay
#1: Excuse me miss...
The easiest opener and you could use it anywhere, it's acting like you're the new guy in town: "excuse me, do you know where I can find..." this or that type of store that you really know is around there somewhere but which will take her some effort to point out to you.
Then it's easy to go into: wow you know your way well around here, are you like a tour guide or something? her: no, me: well you should be, where do I sign up for your tour honey? I'm Dennis btw, what's your name? Nice to meet me. So you know what? You give the poor old new guy a tour of the mall and I'll buy you a (coffee/tea/coke/whatever she likes), come on! it'll be fun..let's go and I would offer her my arm. Just an example of how you could play it out.
#2: Catering to the girl in her...
What do almost ALL women (and especially girls) love? Fashion, shopping..and you could use that stuff to your advantage (if you've got some guts). Example:
Wow I like that (blablabla she's wearing), then you describe the color and whatever a bit (be detailed, that's all that matters) and then ask: where did you buy it? (let her tell you and say) seriously? Well, I need the help of a fashion queen for this on: my niece is a very picky girl and it's almost her birthday, she only wants clothes! So it would be great if a fashion queen would help me pick some, come on! it'll be fun..let's go shopping. When you're in the store, you off course let HER try everything on, accompany her to the dressing room and all of that and then it's your choice - tease her with whatever she tries on, talk meanwhile and get the contact info, or buy her something inexpensive she tried on and ahve an instant date.
Worked wonders for me :yes: does that help you a bit my man?
Hahahahah is it me or am I the only one that got that?Dirty D said:Observer, I think I have a couple of good tips for you from my own "mall mackin'" days (hey, blame my friend Patrick for that weird name okay
#1: Excuse me miss...
The easiest opener and you could use it anywhere, it's acting like you're the new guy in town: "excuse me, do you know where I can find..." this or that type of store that you really know is around there somewhere but which will take her some effort to point out to you.
Then it's easy to go into: wow you know your way well around here, are you like a tour guide or something? her: no, me: well you should be, where do I sign up for your tour honey? I'm Dennis btw, what's your name? Nice to meet me. So you know what? You give the poor old new guy a tour of the mall and I'll buy you a (coffee/tea/coke/whatever she likes), come on! it'll be fun..let's go and I would offer her my arm. Just an example of how you could play it out.
#2: Catering to the girl in her...
What do almost ALL women (and especially girls) love? Fashion, shopping..and you could use that stuff to your advantage (if you've got some guts). Example:
Wow I like that (blablabla she's wearing), then you describe the color and whatever a bit (be detailed, that's all that matters) and then ask: where did you buy it? (let her tell you and say) seriously? Well, I need the help of a fashion queen for this on: my niece is a very picky girl and it's almost her birthday, she only wants clothes! So it would be great if a fashion queen would help me pick some, come on! it'll be fun..let's go shopping. When you're in the store, you off course let HER try everything on, accompany her to the dressing room and all of that and then it's your choice - tease her with whatever she tries on, talk meanwhile and get the contact info, or buy her something inexpensive she tried on and ahve an instant date.
Worked wonders for me :yes: does that help you a bit my man?
What? The bobbing head at the bottom and the smiling face at the top slightly leaned right?eaglez1177 said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.