She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
)..haha yeah i know, which is why i wanna try it, i really got nothing to lose, i'll never see her again anyway.San Jose California said:
yeah that does, thanks dirty d, lol wierd, my name's patrick.Dirty D said:Observer, I think I have a couple of good tips for you from my own "mall mackin'" days (hey, blame my friend Patrick for that weird name okay
#1: Excuse me miss...
The easiest opener and you could use it anywhere, it's acting like you're the new guy in town: "excuse me, do you know where I can find..." this or that type of store that you really know is around there somewhere but which will take her some effort to point out to you.
Then it's easy to go into: wow you know your way well around here, are you like a tour guide or something? her: no, me: well you should be, where do I sign up for your tour honey? I'm Dennis btw, what's your name? Nice to meet me. So you know what? You give the poor old new guy a tour of the mall and I'll buy you a (coffee/tea/coke/whatever she likes), come on! it'll be fun..let's go and I would offer her my arm. Just an example of how you could play it out.
#2: Catering to the girl in her...
What do almost ALL women (and especially girls) love? Fashion, shopping..and you could use that stuff to your advantage (if you've got some guts). Example:
Wow I like that (blablabla she's wearing), then you describe the color and whatever a bit (be detailed, that's all that matters) and then ask: where did you buy it? (let her tell you and say) seriously? Well, I need the help of a fashion queen for this on: my niece is a very picky girl and it's almost her birthday, she only wants clothes! So it would be great if a fashion queen would help me pick some, come on! it'll be fun..let's go shopping. When you're in the store, you off course let HER try everything on, accompany her to the dressing room and all of that and then it's your choice - tease her with whatever she tries on, talk meanwhile and get the contact info, or buy her something inexpensive she tried on and ahve an instant date.
Worked wonders for me :yes: does that help you a bit my man?
Hahahahah is it me or am I the only one that got that?Dirty D said:Observer, I think I have a couple of good tips for you from my own "mall mackin'" days (hey, blame my friend Patrick for that weird name okay
#1: Excuse me miss...
The easiest opener and you could use it anywhere, it's acting like you're the new guy in town: "excuse me, do you know where I can find..." this or that type of store that you really know is around there somewhere but which will take her some effort to point out to you.
Then it's easy to go into: wow you know your way well around here, are you like a tour guide or something? her: no, me: well you should be, where do I sign up for your tour honey? I'm Dennis btw, what's your name? Nice to meet me. So you know what? You give the poor old new guy a tour of the mall and I'll buy you a (coffee/tea/coke/whatever she likes), come on! it'll be fun..let's go and I would offer her my arm. Just an example of how you could play it out.
#2: Catering to the girl in her...
What do almost ALL women (and especially girls) love? Fashion, shopping..and you could use that stuff to your advantage (if you've got some guts). Example:
Wow I like that (blablabla she's wearing), then you describe the color and whatever a bit (be detailed, that's all that matters) and then ask: where did you buy it? (let her tell you and say) seriously? Well, I need the help of a fashion queen for this on: my niece is a very picky girl and it's almost her birthday, she only wants clothes! So it would be great if a fashion queen would help me pick some, come on! it'll be fun..let's go shopping. When you're in the store, you off course let HER try everything on, accompany her to the dressing room and all of that and then it's your choice - tease her with whatever she tries on, talk meanwhile and get the contact info, or buy her something inexpensive she tried on and ahve an instant date.
Worked wonders for me :yes: does that help you a bit my man?
What? The bobbing head at the bottom and the smiling face at the top slightly leaned right?eaglez1177 said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.