"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I see females in class that I want to approach, but since class is a bad time for an approach since I have to copy down the material I want to approach after class.

The problem is that I feel stalkerish if I know that I will have to follow her and don't approach as a result. Any advice?

I think that I should come to class later and wait and see where she sits down and go sit next to her and make an approach which I think is the better thing to do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah....if you sit near her, it shouldn't be too hard.

Or, get there early and talk to her before class.
 
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Dude, say, "Hello". lol When you give a sh1t, they give a sh1t. Just say something. I always get people excited to talk to me because I talk about them. Once they realize I have no other intentions other than shooting the sh1t, they want to know more about me. I could care less if they like me or not because I'm not bringing anything out of it. I already know I'm wonderful, and I'm doing them a favor by letting them talk to me. You is da man. Stop making them so much better than you, dude. Stop the fear!
 
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Demon Wolf said:
I see females in class that I want to approach, but since class is a bad time for an approach since I have to copy down the material I want to approach after class.

The problem is that I feel stalkerish if I know that I will have to follow her and don't approach as a result. Any advice?

I think that I should come to class later and wait and see where she sits down and go sit next to her and make an approach which I think is the better thing to do.
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I agree with what the other posters said. U should go try to sit next to her. If she doesn't seem that responsive(Girls tend to be shy now and then)...keep on talking...then she'll realize that ur just a friendly guy and open up. Also, if its after class..when she's on her way out, say "Stop for a second" with a smile. She'll be curious. I S HIT YOU NOT!!!! Then you can start talking and walking with her. :) Its worth a try.

Also you can be afraid, but u'll feel much better after u do it. By no means, def don't feel stalkerish if ur about to approach her. Good luck Demon Wolf.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DonJoseCantosie said:
I agree with what the other posters said. U should go try to sit next to her. If she doesn't seem that responsive(Girls tend to be shy now and then)...keep on talking...then she'll realize that ur just a friendly guy and open up. Also, if its after class..when she's on her way out, say "Stop for a second" with a smile. She'll be curious. I S HIT YOU NOT!!!! Then you can start talking and walking with her. :) Its worth a try.

Also you can be afraid, but u'll feel much better after u do it. By no means, def don't feel stalkerish if ur about to approach her. Good luck Demon Wolf.
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Haha I definitely gotta try that one :)
 
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Believe me man...u'll be shocked at how well it'll work ;-)
 
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I sat down next to a girl and talked to her for a few minutes. I made a few jokes about the AC being too cold and how messed up the auditorium was and she liked it. When I said goodbye I got sustained direct eye cotnact from her so I think I did good.
 
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yeah, not a bad start. Now just work on your grammar ;)

lol but seriously, make sure you follow up with her. Some C&F, make her laugh some more, initiate kino, and you're good to go.
 
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Demon Wolf said:
I sat down next to a girl and talked to her for a few minutes. I made a few jokes about the AC being too cold and how messed up the auditorium was and she liked it. When I said goodbye I got sustained direct eye cotnact from her so I think I did good.
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Three Words: You Did right. :up:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm like havin the same problem, just theres some chick thats hot, no one sits with her and hasn't all semester, and same with me. Do you guys think she'll thinks it weird if I sit by her one day and start talkin to her? Because I haven't yet, and it's not because I was scared too, it was just that I had a gf so I never thought much of it.
 
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stoner1129 said:
I'm like havin the same problem, just theres some chick thats hot, no one sits with her and hasn't all semester, and same with me. Do you guys think she'll thinks it weird if I sit by her one day and start talkin to her? Because I haven't yet, and it's not because I was scared too, it was just that I had a gf so I never thought much of it.
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might be abit creepy.. why don't you ask her something after class then sit by her after she knows who you are.
 
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