"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I see females in class that I want to approach, but since class is a bad time for an approach since I have to copy down the material I want to approach after class.

The problem is that I feel stalkerish if I know that I will have to follow her and don't approach as a result. Any advice?

I think that I should come to class later and wait and see where she sits down and go sit next to her and make an approach which I think is the better thing to do.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah....if you sit near her, it shouldn't be too hard.

Or, get there early and talk to her before class.
 
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Dude, say, "Hello". lol When you give a sh1t, they give a sh1t. Just say something. I always get people excited to talk to me because I talk about them. Once they realize I have no other intentions other than shooting the sh1t, they want to know more about me. I could care less if they like me or not because I'm not bringing anything out of it. I already know I'm wonderful, and I'm doing them a favor by letting them talk to me. You is da man. Stop making them so much better than you, dude. Stop the fear!
 
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Demon Wolf said:
I see females in class that I want to approach, but since class is a bad time for an approach since I have to copy down the material I want to approach after class.

The problem is that I feel stalkerish if I know that I will have to follow her and don't approach as a result. Any advice?

I think that I should come to class later and wait and see where she sits down and go sit next to her and make an approach which I think is the better thing to do.
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I agree with what the other posters said. U should go try to sit next to her. If she doesn't seem that responsive(Girls tend to be shy now and then)...keep on talking...then she'll realize that ur just a friendly guy and open up. Also, if its after class..when she's on her way out, say "Stop for a second" with a smile. She'll be curious. I S HIT YOU NOT!!!! Then you can start talking and walking with her. :) Its worth a try.

Also you can be afraid, but u'll feel much better after u do it. By no means, def don't feel stalkerish if ur about to approach her. Good luck Demon Wolf.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

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DonJoseCantosie said:
I agree with what the other posters said. U should go try to sit next to her. If she doesn't seem that responsive(Girls tend to be shy now and then)...keep on talking...then she'll realize that ur just a friendly guy and open up. Also, if its after class..when she's on her way out, say "Stop for a second" with a smile. She'll be curious. I S HIT YOU NOT!!!! Then you can start talking and walking with her. :) Its worth a try.

Also you can be afraid, but u'll feel much better after u do it. By no means, def don't feel stalkerish if ur about to approach her. Good luck Demon Wolf.
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Haha I definitely gotta try that one :)
 
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Believe me man...u'll be shocked at how well it'll work ;-)
 
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I sat down next to a girl and talked to her for a few minutes. I made a few jokes about the AC being too cold and how messed up the auditorium was and she liked it. When I said goodbye I got sustained direct eye cotnact from her so I think I did good.
 
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yeah, not a bad start. Now just work on your grammar ;)

lol but seriously, make sure you follow up with her. Some C&F, make her laugh some more, initiate kino, and you're good to go.
 
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Demon Wolf said:
I sat down next to a girl and talked to her for a few minutes. I made a few jokes about the AC being too cold and how messed up the auditorium was and she liked it. When I said goodbye I got sustained direct eye cotnact from her so I think I did good.
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Three Words: You Did right. :up:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I'm like havin the same problem, just theres some chick thats hot, no one sits with her and hasn't all semester, and same with me. Do you guys think she'll thinks it weird if I sit by her one day and start talkin to her? Because I haven't yet, and it's not because I was scared too, it was just that I had a gf so I never thought much of it.
 
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stoner1129 said:
I'm like havin the same problem, just theres some chick thats hot, no one sits with her and hasn't all semester, and same with me. Do you guys think she'll thinks it weird if I sit by her one day and start talkin to her? Because I haven't yet, and it's not because I was scared too, it was just that I had a gf so I never thought much of it.
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might be abit creepy.. why don't you ask her something after class then sit by her after she knows who you are.
 
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