Approaching a woman at a restaurant

[HankHill]

I was just having lunch with some work friends when three women walked into the restaurant and instantly my attention drew towards one of them. They sat quite a ways away but I got two quick glances from her. So I started thinking how to approach her because she was busy in her conversation with her two (work) friends. So after a couple of mins of pondering I decided that if I catch her looking at me again I'd go over to her and just say 'Hi, you have by far the nicest smile I've seen all day. If you live in the area I'd love to see you again' and see if she says yes at which point we could exchange ph#s. Sounds corny but it's the best I could come up with. I don't usually get opportunities to approach women IRL so I'm in an unfamiliar territory here.

Unfortunately she never did look in my direction again (that I noticed) so nothing came of it but this definitely begs the question what to say when you approach a woman who's with her work colleagues etc?

 

[MrJack]

I was just having lunch with some work friends when three women walked into the restaurant and instantly my attention drew towards one of them. They sat quite a ways away but I got two quick glances from her. So I started thinking how to approach her because she was busy in her conversation with her two (work) friends. So after a couple of mins of pondering I decided that if I catch her looking at me again I'd go over to her and just say 'Hi, you have by far the nicest smile I've seen all day. If you live in the area I'd love to see you again' and see if she says yes at which point we could exchange ph#s. Sounds corny but it's the best I could come up with. I don't usually get opportunities to approach women IRL so I'm in an unfamiliar territory here.

Unfortunately she never did look in my direction again (that I noticed) so nothing came of it but this definitely begs the question what to say when you approach a woman who's with her work colleagues etc?

Hard to do that successfully I feel like.

Few months ago a few friends and myself stopped in this restaurant for late night tacos after a night of drinking at the bars and a group of people came in and sat a table or 2 away from us.

At one point we were talking with them since we were rather close and one of them happened to be a very attractive Latina.

I fully attribute me going up to her as a result of me being drunk af but as we were leaving I just walked over there and started talking with them a bit and inviting them all to the beach the following day. The Latina was giving me good signs and I just pulled out my phone and told her to put her number in.

All in all I think she just liked the attention in front of her friends because I never got a text back.

Forgot where I was going with this but yea I feel like even in the best of those scenarios, it’s hard to complete the full equation (get random number at restaurant in front of her friends or colleagues, get text back, set up date, fvck).

This is just my experience though.

 

[HankHill]

Ha! nice! A lot of guys here talk a big game about approaching random women in IRL, may be they can tell us how it's done. But yeah, I wouldn't do this to just any woman but she definitely caught my attention and I was willing to risk it a bit had she given me a more inviting look (longer gaze).

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Ha! nice! A lot of guys here talk a big game about approaching random women in IRL, may be they can tell us how it's done. But yeah, I wouldn't do this to just any woman but she definitely caught my attention and I was willing to risk it a bit had she given me a more inviting look (longer gaze).

Business card exchange. Not sure how you talk with her in a group of coworkers.

 

[marmel75]

Yeah its tough, but if you pull it off really well you will basically have legendary status in their eyes because so few guys would even have the confidence to do it, let alone do it well...

 

[Murk]

You have to look good to pull this off. All she has to go on is your appearance and aura/confidence.

No point attempting this if she can’t look into your eyes and say “god he’s hot”

Or you need to be super slick talking, disarm the crowd, say something poingnant, get the digits and gtfo.

Either way you need extraordinary something, looks, game or both.