"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Approaching a woman at a restaurant

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I was just having lunch with some work friends when three women walked into the restaurant and instantly my attention drew towards one of them. They sat quite a ways away but I got two quick glances from her. So I started thinking how to approach her because she was busy in her conversation with her two (work) friends. So after a couple of mins of pondering I decided that if I catch her looking at me again I'd go over to her and just say 'Hi, you have by far the nicest smile I've seen all day. If you live in the area I'd love to see you again' and see if she says yes at which point we could exchange ph#s. Sounds corny but it's the best I could come up with. I don't usually get opportunities to approach women IRL so I'm in an unfamiliar territory here.

Unfortunately she never did look in my direction again (that I noticed) so nothing came of it but this definitely begs the question what to say when you approach a woman who's with her work colleagues etc?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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HankHill said:
I was just having lunch with some work friends when three women walked into the restaurant and instantly my attention drew towards one of them. They sat quite a ways away but I got two quick glances from her. So I started thinking how to approach her because she was busy in her conversation with her two (work) friends. So after a couple of mins of pondering I decided that if I catch her looking at me again I'd go over to her and just say 'Hi, you have by far the nicest smile I've seen all day. If you live in the area I'd love to see you again' and see if she says yes at which point we could exchange ph#s. Sounds corny but it's the best I could come up with. I don't usually get opportunities to approach women IRL so I'm in an unfamiliar territory here.

Unfortunately she never did look in my direction again (that I noticed) so nothing came of it but this definitely begs the question what to say when you approach a woman who's with her work colleagues etc?
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Hard to do that successfully I feel like.

Few months ago a few friends and myself stopped in this restaurant for late night tacos after a night of drinking at the bars and a group of people came in and sat a table or 2 away from us.

At one point we were talking with them since we were rather close and one of them happened to be a very attractive Latina.

I fully attribute me going up to her as a result of me being drunk af but as we were leaving I just walked over there and started talking with them a bit and inviting them all to the beach the following day. The Latina was giving me good signs and I just pulled out my phone and told her to put her number in.

All in all I think she just liked the attention in front of her friends because I never got a text back.

Forgot where I was going with this but yea I feel like even in the best of those scenarios, it’s hard to complete the full equation (get random number at restaurant in front of her friends or colleagues, get text back, set up date, fvck).

This is just my experience though.
 
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Ha! nice! A lot of guys here talk a big game about approaching random women in IRL, may be they can tell us how it's done. But yeah, I wouldn't do this to just any woman but she definitely caught my attention and I was willing to risk it a bit had she given me a more inviting look (longer gaze).
 
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HankHill said:
Ha! nice! A lot of guys here talk a big game about approaching random women in IRL, may be they can tell us how it's done. But yeah, I wouldn't do this to just any woman but she definitely caught my attention and I was willing to risk it a bit had she given me a more inviting look (longer gaze).
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Business card exchange. Not sure how you talk with her in a group of coworkers.
 
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Yeah its tough, but if you pull it off really well you will basically have legendary status in their eyes because so few guys would even have the confidence to do it, let alone do it well...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You have to look good to pull this off. All she has to go on is your appearance and aura/confidence.

No point attempting this if she can’t look into your eyes and say “god he’s hot”

Or you need to be super slick talking, disarm the crowd, say something poingnant, get the digits and gtfo.

Either way you need extraordinary something, looks, game or both.
 
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