"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Approached HB 9 through bet.

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my friend bet me 55$ I couldn't get my picture taken with the "seattles' best" girl in the coffee shop.

She was HB 9. None of them know im in the game.

There were only 4 of us guys. :)

So I go inside the cafe and it went like this:

ME: Hi! :)

HB: Hello! (acting nice because it's her job maybe, i cant really tell)

ME: My friends just dared me to have my picture taken with you, do you mind?

HB: Sure no problem, i'll be out in a sec

*few seconds later*

HB: Okay let's go..

Me: *tries to put my hand on her shoulders for the picture, but she brushes me off*

*on the way out*

Me: My name is M by the way.

Her: I'm claire

*shakes hands*

*outside now*

*We get out picture taken*

I won the bet, so i practically forgot to get her #, she just said, "There" then smiled :) and went back to work.

I failed to get her #, I actually never asked. But I never approached a girl of this level before.

It felt great! I swear it could be one of the best feeling in the world! :)

And I admit, approaching her, i was full of fear. (you know it) I'm going to start approaching 1 girl a day starting from now. :)

So if u have never approached a girl, the time is now. And if you are full of fear, dont wait for a bet to motivate you. Do it for yourself. I should have done this a long time ago.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Thats a good way to get someone who is afraid to approach, like me. If someone bet me 50 bucks and I actually thought they would give it to me, I'd approach any chick maybe i wouldnt get a picture with her but i would approach.
 

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lol

I wish there was a non-approaching tax, that you had to pay 500 bux a year if you didnt get laid 5 times during a year, lets get congress to pass the No lay Bill.

Finally all those we vote into power actually using it for some good. :)
 

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The funny thing is, the HB 9 was just standing there.

As I stood up, and as I walked to her, I had no idea what to say.

Then there it is. Like natural instinct. You may say the wrong things. you may fail.

But failing is most definately better than not trying at all.

And believe me, it is. Even if she fully rejected me, which she didn't, approaching & trying is much better than thinking what could have been and kicking yourself afterwards.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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And let me be honest, if they guy told me, "i'm only kidding about the 55$.."

i'll be like, "aight, thanks for motivating me to approach that girl, i needed that experience anyway." :D
 

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Amen. I read somewhere about this guy who gave his friend 20$ and said he could keep it if he didnt approach 5 chicks. Ill be honest and say that this is the kind of motivation I need.
 

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for $55 ill number close her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Damian

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Awesome field report...i totally agree...

All of you beginners out there should just start approaching and get rid of the nagging fear. You'll be a better person for it!

-Damian
 
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