"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Approached HB 9 through bet.

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my friend bet me 55$ I couldn't get my picture taken with the "seattles' best" girl in the coffee shop.

She was HB 9. None of them know im in the game.

There were only 4 of us guys. :)

So I go inside the cafe and it went like this:

ME: Hi! :)

HB: Hello! (acting nice because it's her job maybe, i cant really tell)

ME: My friends just dared me to have my picture taken with you, do you mind?

HB: Sure no problem, i'll be out in a sec

*few seconds later*

HB: Okay let's go..

Me: *tries to put my hand on her shoulders for the picture, but she brushes me off*

*on the way out*

Me: My name is M by the way.

Her: I'm claire

*shakes hands*

*outside now*

*We get out picture taken*

I won the bet, so i practically forgot to get her #, she just said, "There" then smiled :) and went back to work.

I failed to get her #, I actually never asked. But I never approached a girl of this level before.

It felt great! I swear it could be one of the best feeling in the world! :)

And I admit, approaching her, i was full of fear. (you know it) I'm going to start approaching 1 girl a day starting from now. :)

So if u have never approached a girl, the time is now. And if you are full of fear, dont wait for a bet to motivate you. Do it for yourself. I should have done this a long time ago.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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qweretyuiopas

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Thats a good way to get someone who is afraid to approach, like me. If someone bet me 50 bucks and I actually thought they would give it to me, I'd approach any chick maybe i wouldnt get a picture with her but i would approach.
 

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lol

I wish there was a non-approaching tax, that you had to pay 500 bux a year if you didnt get laid 5 times during a year, lets get congress to pass the No lay Bill.

Finally all those we vote into power actually using it for some good. :)
 

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The funny thing is, the HB 9 was just standing there.

As I stood up, and as I walked to her, I had no idea what to say.

Then there it is. Like natural instinct. You may say the wrong things. you may fail.

But failing is most definately better than not trying at all.

And believe me, it is. Even if she fully rejected me, which she didn't, approaching & trying is much better than thinking what could have been and kicking yourself afterwards.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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And let me be honest, if they guy told me, "i'm only kidding about the 55$.."

i'll be like, "aight, thanks for motivating me to approach that girl, i needed that experience anyway." :D
 

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Amen. I read somewhere about this guy who gave his friend 20$ and said he could keep it if he didnt approach 5 chicks. Ill be honest and say that this is the kind of motivation I need.
 

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for $55 ill number close her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Damian

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Awesome field report...i totally agree...

All of you beginners out there should just start approaching and get rid of the nagging fear. You'll be a better person for it!

-Damian
 
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