"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Approach anxiety

blackknight

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Hi all,

I know this is proabably a very common question. But i'm intrested to know what peoples general tactics are with regards to dealing with the initial approach anxiety.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Captain

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I used to have terrible approach anxiety. I couldn't even say hi to a stranger in the street. Now I have no trouble starting conversations. It took me 3 weeks to change.

Short answer: practice.

Long answer:

1. Say hi to everyone you walk past, nice and loud, with a smile.

Set yourself a goal to say hi to at least 20 people a day, every day, for a week. Say this to men, women, old, young, etc.

At first it will be hard, but it will get so easy by the end of the week that it will feel weird not to say hi. After a day or so, you should have the courage to say hi to two people walking together. Remember to do it loud and with a smile.

2. Progress to conversations with women. The opinion opener is the best if you have approach anxiety.

Ask if you can have their opinion on something. It doesn't matter what it is, so long as it sounds sincere. I've never had a woman decline to give me an "opinion." Go out and do this to at least 5 women every day for a week. If they seem interested, ask their name, and go from there.

Keep your body language non-needy. Lean back, not forwards. Don't directly face her while talking until she has earned your interest. If she seems interested, don't stay on the opinion opener for too long, you need to start properly gaming her.

The opinion opener is just that, an opener. It gets your foot in the door. You have to go from there.

I could say a lot more about approaching and how to beat approach anxiety, I've been thinking about doing a post in the "Don Juan Tips" sometime soon. Keep an eye out.
 

Randallpink83

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I've answered and posted about Approach Anxiety so much, that I seriously don't want to do it ever again.... So I'm going to just post a link to one of my previous posts on the subjects.

here is the first one I could find
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1476949&postcount=17


...And here is a thread I STARTED on the subject. Its a mammoth post though.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=151532


This may help you. Its just a little process I've came up with that can push you past Approach Anxiety.
...oh and uhhh, I've approached alot of girls in Real Life, this is not KJ bullshizzz lol. :)
 
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