"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Approach anxiety

blackknight

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Hi all,

I know this is proabably a very common question. But i'm intrested to know what peoples general tactics are with regards to dealing with the initial approach anxiety.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I used to have terrible approach anxiety. I couldn't even say hi to a stranger in the street. Now I have no trouble starting conversations. It took me 3 weeks to change.

Short answer: practice.

Long answer:

1. Say hi to everyone you walk past, nice and loud, with a smile.

Set yourself a goal to say hi to at least 20 people a day, every day, for a week. Say this to men, women, old, young, etc.

At first it will be hard, but it will get so easy by the end of the week that it will feel weird not to say hi. After a day or so, you should have the courage to say hi to two people walking together. Remember to do it loud and with a smile.

2. Progress to conversations with women. The opinion opener is the best if you have approach anxiety.

Ask if you can have their opinion on something. It doesn't matter what it is, so long as it sounds sincere. I've never had a woman decline to give me an "opinion." Go out and do this to at least 5 women every day for a week. If they seem interested, ask their name, and go from there.

Keep your body language non-needy. Lean back, not forwards. Don't directly face her while talking until she has earned your interest. If she seems interested, don't stay on the opinion opener for too long, you need to start properly gaming her.

The opinion opener is just that, an opener. It gets your foot in the door. You have to go from there.

I could say a lot more about approaching and how to beat approach anxiety, I've been thinking about doing a post in the "Don Juan Tips" sometime soon. Keep an eye out.
 

Randallpink83

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I've answered and posted about Approach Anxiety so much, that I seriously don't want to do it ever again.... So I'm going to just post a link to one of my previous posts on the subjects.

here is the first one I could find
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1476949&postcount=17


...And here is a thread I STARTED on the subject. Its a mammoth post though.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=151532


This may help you. Its just a little process I've came up with that can push you past Approach Anxiety.
...oh and uhhh, I've approached alot of girls in Real Life, this is not KJ bullshizzz lol. :)
 
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