Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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bass_slappin

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i'm relatively successful with girls have been told im pretty good looking and am pretty happy with myself, but there is one thing i definitely need advice on. I'm pretty good in conversation with a girl once te conversation gets rolling but i'm terrible at initiating a good conversation or initial contact at all. any advice would be appreciated. thanks
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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a little addition: i have non sexual/non advance type conversations with girls all the time, i was wondering how to convey that i might be interested
 

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read the HS bible, it's stickied at the top of the forum. you'll get everything on approaching, conversation starting, and kino. it won't give you a step by step guide, but it gives you a good idea of what you should do. good luck.
 

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Don't have a "normal conversation" with a woman you're trying to sleep with. You want to joke around with them and tease them, not have safe convos about grades and the weather. If you say you've been having friendly conversation, with no advancement or sexual innuendo on your part, you have probably already been placed into the "friend category" and she won't be able to picture you as boyfriend material, let alone picture having sex with you.

Don't be afraid to talk about sex. It conveys sexual confidence and girls (secretly) love talking about it.

As far as initiating conversations, just practice. We all have approach anxiety sometimes, just suck it up and go for it. Be a man.
 

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Don't have a "normal conversation" with a woman you're trying to sleep with. You want to joke around with them and tease them, not have safe convos about grades and the weather. If you say you've been having friendly conversation, with no advancement or sexual innuendo on your part, you have probably already been placed into the "friend category" and she won't be able to picture you as boyfriend material, let alone picture having sex with you.
yea i understand that and i have already accepted that ive made these mistakes i was mainly talking about new girls that ive had limited or no contact with at all. ye ai think you were right about approach anxiety it was a pretty good diagnosis.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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