You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
whoa! those kazakh girls are HOT! Id love to go to Kazakhstan. Imagine how interesting of a person you'll become if you tell people you've actually been there and its totally different then what was depicted in the "BORAT" movie....imagine how amazed people will be....too bad i just totally dropped out of college today...dont you NEED a bachelors in most countries??meitenesrigas said:WRONG. Follow the scent of the Russian language. The Former Soviet Union packs more beauty than all other places combined. Kazakh and Kyrgyz girls have VERY "Oriental" features, are tall, and have enough Russian blood lines to make them the "hottest asian girls". Interesting enough, most are Muslims. You won't be able to teach them English though. Maybe go and learn Russian.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6hz23smDcp0&feature=related
Oh yeah, MySpace is an Anglophile social networking site. It is not what non-English speaking parts of the world use.
Leporello said:What, they stopped selling condoms? I wouldn't go in unprotected with any chick I wasn't married to, 1st, 2nd, or 3rd world. Though the odds of getting AIDS from straight sex are very low. And drugs are not my thing.
Free-spirited, really? I'd have thought (though I don't know, obviously) that it'd be more conservative.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
yeah, except I doubt most people who do it solely do it for the money, and living/teaching in Japan is generally considered a much better experience than in Korea. I'd also disagree that koreans are considered "friendlier" to foreigners than japanese people are. Japanese people are generally renowned for being very polite and helpful and friendly.canadianmetalhead said:ive looked into this myself. way more koreans speak english and they are aot more friendly to foreigners. they also pay you alot better there than in japan. so...go to korea.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
do you need a 4 year degree? how is VN? Banged any chicks yet?chuchu said:I've been here in Vietnam for amost 2 months already. I got 8 more days left. If you have a teaching certificate, your salary could get up to about 1500 a month for about 26 hrs in a month. If you are considering Vietnam, apply for the ILA school. After teaching there for a year, you can transfer to RMIT. RMIT is an international college. Vietnamese girls are super cute. A lot of them speaks english.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.