You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
whoa! those kazakh girls are HOT! Id love to go to Kazakhstan. Imagine how interesting of a person you'll become if you tell people you've actually been there and its totally different then what was depicted in the "BORAT" movie....imagine how amazed people will be....too bad i just totally dropped out of college today...dont you NEED a bachelors in most countries??meitenesrigas said:WRONG. Follow the scent of the Russian language. The Former Soviet Union packs more beauty than all other places combined. Kazakh and Kyrgyz girls have VERY "Oriental" features, are tall, and have enough Russian blood lines to make them the "hottest asian girls". Interesting enough, most are Muslims. You won't be able to teach them English though. Maybe go and learn Russian.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6hz23smDcp0&feature=related
Oh yeah, MySpace is an Anglophile social networking site. It is not what non-English speaking parts of the world use.
Leporello said:What, they stopped selling condoms? I wouldn't go in unprotected with any chick I wasn't married to, 1st, 2nd, or 3rd world. Though the odds of getting AIDS from straight sex are very low. And drugs are not my thing.
Free-spirited, really? I'd have thought (though I don't know, obviously) that it'd be more conservative.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
yeah, except I doubt most people who do it solely do it for the money, and living/teaching in Japan is generally considered a much better experience than in Korea. I'd also disagree that koreans are considered "friendlier" to foreigners than japanese people are. Japanese people are generally renowned for being very polite and helpful and friendly.canadianmetalhead said:ive looked into this myself. way more koreans speak english and they are aot more friendly to foreigners. they also pay you alot better there than in japan. so...go to korea.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
do you need a 4 year degree? how is VN? Banged any chicks yet?chuchu said:I've been here in Vietnam for amost 2 months already. I got 8 more days left. If you have a teaching certificate, your salary could get up to about 1500 a month for about 26 hrs in a month. If you are considering Vietnam, apply for the ILA school. After teaching there for a year, you can transfer to RMIT. RMIT is an international college. Vietnamese girls are super cute. A lot of them speaks english.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.