mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
He has social presence in real life. It's just not displayed in facebook. Everyone in his social surroundings is aware of him.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Apparently, I'm strange because I am not on "social media"
- Thread starter RickTheToad
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
RickTheToad
Moderator
Dude, how do I describe myself? I don't like or use social media. So I am less of a person because I am not materialistic and do not follow online gossip? Believe it or not, I know you may not understand, but humans survived millions of years before the advent of social media.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You are in social environments in your real life, correct?
RickTheToad
Moderator
Usually twice a week. If I have a date, that would be to an addition to that. It's more in the spring, summer and fall. Winter it's a bit tougher.