Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Apology Advice

slickaz

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fuk it seems the three plates i hate ive fvkd up **** wit all of them.lol

the last plate called me earlier and shes usually very funny.
we always exchange fire but in a fun way and laugh it off

anyway she said her mum wants her to get married to this other guy.
to which i said "Marriage even! wow!! good for you?"

she"Oh so ur just gonna let me get married to some other guy? fine i will"

me" um i umm..what the hell do i say man?! lol.."

so she changed topic but i cud tell she was still upset..

then later when she called she mocked me ant smtn n i said
"oh! you kno i shud just not talk to you if ur gonna mock me all the time"

she "ok..dont then.."

me thinkin its a joke "yeh, good riddance bad rubbish eh?"

she got mad over that
she "oh fine! u can get the big next..i can either act a ***** or just ignore you..pick one.."

me still thinkin it was a joke "yaaaaawn..uve said that before..new stuff!!!"

she hung up..

i text her back like "hey lets not be immature here, i was only jokin.hit me up sometime."

no reply..

do you think i should call and apologies?

if i call n apologies then i know i can get it back on track..but should i?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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slickaz

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Thanks bro..best advice for myself and the new guys

i think thats a good way to look at it..as in what i can control ill control the rest i wont care about..

good way to judge when to care n when not to.

ps: i left it, i didnt say netn, i was going to call after my meeting with clients.
but she called me and said hi, thats it..
i expressed to her that its smtn i couldnt do anything about, this idea of her marrying another guy, so what could i have possibily said that wouldnt have made it worse.
she asked what i meant..i walked her thru
if i had said NO you cant marry anyone, thats comin on too hard too controllin, im not that guy.
if i said yes you can, then that shows no interest
if i say upto you, that shows im not sure myself..

so i made a joke out of it by saying nothin really
i said "marriage even!good for you? like can be takin two ways as a question or a compliment..
then she apologised n said she shouldve given me a chance to explain and it was too quick to talk about marraige..
so i guess its cool.
 
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