"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Apology Advice

slickaz

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fuk it seems the three plates i hate ive fvkd up **** wit all of them.lol

the last plate called me earlier and shes usually very funny.
we always exchange fire but in a fun way and laugh it off

anyway she said her mum wants her to get married to this other guy.
to which i said "Marriage even! wow!! good for you?"

she"Oh so ur just gonna let me get married to some other guy? fine i will"

me" um i umm..what the hell do i say man?! lol.."

so she changed topic but i cud tell she was still upset..

then later when she called she mocked me ant smtn n i said
"oh! you kno i shud just not talk to you if ur gonna mock me all the time"

she "ok..dont then.."

me thinkin its a joke "yeh, good riddance bad rubbish eh?"

she got mad over that
she "oh fine! u can get the big next..i can either act a ***** or just ignore you..pick one.."

me still thinkin it was a joke "yaaaaawn..uve said that before..new stuff!!!"

she hung up..

i text her back like "hey lets not be immature here, i was only jokin.hit me up sometime."

no reply..

do you think i should call and apologies?

if i call n apologies then i know i can get it back on track..but should i?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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slickaz

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Thanks bro..best advice for myself and the new guys

i think thats a good way to look at it..as in what i can control ill control the rest i wont care about..

good way to judge when to care n when not to.

ps: i left it, i didnt say netn, i was going to call after my meeting with clients.
but she called me and said hi, thats it..
i expressed to her that its smtn i couldnt do anything about, this idea of her marrying another guy, so what could i have possibily said that wouldnt have made it worse.
she asked what i meant..i walked her thru
if i had said NO you cant marry anyone, thats comin on too hard too controllin, im not that guy.
if i said yes you can, then that shows no interest
if i say upto you, that shows im not sure myself..

so i made a joke out of it by saying nothin really
i said "marriage even!good for you? like can be takin two ways as a question or a compliment..
then she apologised n said she shouldve given me a chance to explain and it was too quick to talk about marraige..
so i guess its cool.
 
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