"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Apologizing

Freddy1

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Is it ever okay to apologize to a girl? Would it display lower social value if you did? :confused:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mr_knowit_all

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Teflon_Mcgee said:
Did you really screw up?

Yes? Apologize.

No? Don't apologize.
It really depends. I personally don't think anything constructive comes out of apologizing. It will definitely lower your value to her, and if you did something so egregious that an apology is truly warranted, I think it would ring hollow anyway.
 

Skilla_Staz

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I generally tell a girl "I'm not big on apologizing. If I screw up, I'd much rather fix it and make it up to you than tell you I'm sorry."

They buy it. It's true, but I rarely f*ck up enough to need to fix it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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THE_ADDMAN

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If you genuinely **** up, and genuinely regret doing it, then apologize.

otherwise, dont.
 

dipset_mafia

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you can always get away from apologizing... you don't need to tell them you're not apologizing, or tell them you're going to make it up to them... continue on like nothing happened.. apologize once, and you'll have to apologize every time you do that same thing.. like being late, farting, forgetting, getting too drunk, lol, making stupid comments, etc...

coffee date:...
"you're late!"
"I see you've started without me, what kind did you get?" give her a smile and continue with your game.. she won't be pissed if you don't ALLOW her to feel like you've done something wrong by admitting it through apology.

apologize and u put an akward tone on things, like you owe her something.. fck that..

you break something of hers? offer to replace it, don't apologize... you need to cancel a date? just do it, you aren't really "sorry" are you?...

things that warrant an apology... ****ing her best friend, cheating period... killing her pet on purpose.. lol... kicking her brothers ass (sorry babe, he deserved that sh!t..) haha..

say anything to avoid the apology, short of lying.
 

Teflon_Mcgee

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Mr_knowit_all said:
I personally don't think anything constructive comes out of apologizing. It will definitely lower your value to her, .
Not if you have a strong enough frame.

Agree to disagree?

BTW, I don't recommend apologizing for trivial stuff or stupid girl drama.
We're on the same page there.
 

Cod3r

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Make a big deaL about 'NOT' apologizing when you meet her...

She won't expect it... then when u really fvck up and do apologize she'll know you mean it since you NEVER apologize to anyone... $$$$


-Cod3r
 

vorbis

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this is a weird question. First off, you obviously never apologies for trivial stuff. When it comes to something really serious, I'm in the middle.

If you apologise, unlike with a friend, she's liable to always remember it. As someone else said, its a DLV as it comes across as failing.

If you don't apologies for something serious, its a jerk move and if a friend acted like that to me I'd be pissed. With women though, not apologising seems to show dominance and can cause a lot of women to re-evaluate the situation, maybe he's not wrong. I don't like it but can't deny its effectiveness having seen friends keep gfs while doing **** that should get them dumpled. e.g cheating, being drunk all the time.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Raikojo17

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Teflon_Mcgee said:
Did you really screw up?

Yes? Apologize.

No? Don't apologize.
agreed. apologizing show's ur man enough to take blame and not place it on others. but only if u truely screwed up, not if she was the b!tch
 
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