Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Apartment Overhaul: Building the ultimate'pad'.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
For chicks, try to work all of the senses. You also need at least one chickcentric item. On one of the David D interviews a guy suggests a fountain, even a cheap one. It's a good excuse for her to come back to your place.
My tastes are very eclectic. I want my crib to embody who i am, where i've been and where i'm going.
The living room is going to have really comfortable vibe to it.
BIG SCREEN
COMFY SOFA/LOVE SEAT/RECLINER
LATEST VIDEO GAME systems (Ps2, XBOX 360)
Surround Sound system
some huge floor plants for a laid back vibe.
a wood book case
The bedroom is going to have a "South Beach" type vibe to it. Really tropical and sexy.
Huge king size bed.
TV (32 inch flatscreen)
plants
some neon lights
a hammock
some water effects
mirrors
Now here is the thing...I am going to have a finished basement that i'm going to turn into a boom boom room. Stripper pole, insane audio system, wet bar, pool tables, black jack table, i mean i'm going to turn it into an underground strip club. that will come with time though. i'm going to have to round up some serious dough for this project
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bible_Belt: The foosball table is a good idea, but not much room for that right now. I'm on a waiting list for a 2 bed with an ocean view, so maybe then. The one chickcentric item is a good idea. Been looking at some fireplaces. Fountain sounds very cool too.
Casino: You da man! I like the tropical idea, and the boom boom room... un-freaking-believable! Just the kind of feedback I was looking for.
Keep those ideas coming!
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
I was stationed down in GTMO BAY cuba for 1 year and a couple of us built a Tiki Bar on our back porch.
Get some bambo, thatch and dry grass for the top. Tiki torches for lighting and of course those little owl hanging lights. you can get pretty creative with the actual bar if you want. if i lived in a warmer climate i wouldn't hesiate to do this. pretty cheap project and you can actually charge $$$ for drinks if you got enough people stopping by.
Oh I almost forgot. A nice touch to an awesome bachelor pad is a beautiful fish tank stocked with some exotic fish.
If you could find an old fashioned Phone Booth that would be so freaking money..i don't even know where to come across those maybe EBAY but that would be the ish.
get creative with it..i want my place to be like a little mini vacation everytime i walk in the front door.
one more thing...If you know how to work the system you can get most of your bachelor pad essentials free at Rent A center places
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Evangenlion
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king size bed
a box of condoms
a box of cigerretes
an ashtray
frigde
and a tv box
fair enough for me.
lol, man all i know is home is where i am at anymoment in time.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
animal crackers
Senior Don Juan
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
diplomatic_lies
Master Don Juan
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-Blowup sofa ($5 at garage sale)
-Running toilet (including flushing toilet and working taps)
-El Grande portrait of a Scottish castle, $2 at college sale
-Roof (non-leaking), carpeted floors, windows, and doors (with bonus locking mechanism)
ryan killa
Don Juan
Oh yea, if you were to do this, don't get plants that attract bugs and stuff, or at least the wrong kind.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
lol, cute.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Photosynthesis
Plants convert CO2 into O2. What a counterbalance to what we do! Converting O2 into CO2.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Respiration_(physiology)
Information, baby. Use it!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.