"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Apartment Overhaul: Building the ultimate'pad'.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
For chicks, try to work all of the senses. You also need at least one chickcentric item. On one of the David D interviews a guy suggests a fountain, even a cheap one. It's a good excuse for her to come back to your place.
My tastes are very eclectic. I want my crib to embody who i am, where i've been and where i'm going.
The living room is going to have really comfortable vibe to it.
BIG SCREEN
COMFY SOFA/LOVE SEAT/RECLINER
LATEST VIDEO GAME systems (Ps2, XBOX 360)
Surround Sound system
some huge floor plants for a laid back vibe.
a wood book case
The bedroom is going to have a "South Beach" type vibe to it. Really tropical and sexy.
Huge king size bed.
TV (32 inch flatscreen)
plants
some neon lights
a hammock
some water effects
mirrors
Now here is the thing...I am going to have a finished basement that i'm going to turn into a boom boom room. Stripper pole, insane audio system, wet bar, pool tables, black jack table, i mean i'm going to turn it into an underground strip club. that will come with time though. i'm going to have to round up some serious dough for this project
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bible_Belt: The foosball table is a good idea, but not much room for that right now. I'm on a waiting list for a 2 bed with an ocean view, so maybe then. The one chickcentric item is a good idea. Been looking at some fireplaces. Fountain sounds very cool too.
Casino: You da man! I like the tropical idea, and the boom boom room... un-freaking-believable! Just the kind of feedback I was looking for.
Keep those ideas coming!
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
I was stationed down in GTMO BAY cuba for 1 year and a couple of us built a Tiki Bar on our back porch.
Get some bambo, thatch and dry grass for the top. Tiki torches for lighting and of course those little owl hanging lights. you can get pretty creative with the actual bar if you want. if i lived in a warmer climate i wouldn't hesiate to do this. pretty cheap project and you can actually charge $$$ for drinks if you got enough people stopping by.
Oh I almost forgot. A nice touch to an awesome bachelor pad is a beautiful fish tank stocked with some exotic fish.
If you could find an old fashioned Phone Booth that would be so freaking money..i don't even know where to come across those maybe EBAY but that would be the ish.
get creative with it..i want my place to be like a little mini vacation everytime i walk in the front door.
one more thing...If you know how to work the system you can get most of your bachelor pad essentials free at Rent A center places
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Evangenlion
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king size bed
a box of condoms
a box of cigerretes
an ashtray
frigde
and a tv box
fair enough for me.
lol, man all i know is home is where i am at anymoment in time.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
animal crackers
Senior Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
diplomatic_lies
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-Blowup sofa ($5 at garage sale)
-Running toilet (including flushing toilet and working taps)
-El Grande portrait of a Scottish castle, $2 at college sale
-Roof (non-leaking), carpeted floors, windows, and doors (with bonus locking mechanism)
ryan killa
Don Juan
Oh yea, if you were to do this, don't get plants that attract bugs and stuff, or at least the wrong kind.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
lol, cute.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Photosynthesis
Plants convert CO2 into O2. What a counterbalance to what we do! Converting O2 into CO2.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Respiration_(physiology)
Information, baby. Use it!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.