The fact is alot of things women do in dating men LOATHE.
A friend of mine told me about how her current boyfriend asked her out. This was during the beginning stages of their relationship. She told me her response when he asked her out, "maybe I shouldn't go out with him: he was nervous." "It shows he's not self-confident." I jumped all over her.
DON'T YOU EVALUATE THIS MAN BY HOW HE ASKS YOU OUT!!
You can't "judge" this person on that simple situation or make
blanket statements about who he is. GET A ****ING CLUE!
Well , she went out with him ( because of me jumping in) and found this guy to be one of the most wonderful guys. Sweet, good hearted, generous--a huge leap in "class" from the sleasy, lying, alcoholics she was finding in the BAR SCENE who wanted to **** her and dump her. She's found a keeper.
I am thinking that all this stress on self-confidance by women is really a poor way for them to choose a man. What I see often is an extreme judgmentalism which prevents the women from developing true JUDGEMENT- based on facts and reality. Women need to develope an accurate perception and discernment of who a person is. The quick initial judgementalism is harsh and cold and prevents the learning and experience which develops true JUDGEMENT. THey just reject out of hand. And we (the men) are left with a lot of gratuitous rejection.
Men score (on average) much higher in Mathematical intelligence, and this is much more highly correlated with critical thinking ability. Women have quite the lead though in Verbal intelligence, but they don't have the critical thinking ability. Hence , the reliance on status, self-confidance and other signals of WORTH by the female.
That doesn't mean you can't help women think better. I did in the above example. Some of you ought to CLUE IN some of your female friends-and help them to think critically. Get them to realize that there is a distinction between Judgement-based on facts and experience and the lightening quick judgementalism they exhibit.
Geoff
A friend of mine told me about how her current boyfriend asked her out. This was during the beginning stages of their relationship. She told me her response when he asked her out, "maybe I shouldn't go out with him: he was nervous." "It shows he's not self-confident." I jumped all over her.
DON'T YOU EVALUATE THIS MAN BY HOW HE ASKS YOU OUT!!
You can't "judge" this person on that simple situation or make
blanket statements about who he is. GET A ****ING CLUE!
Well , she went out with him ( because of me jumping in) and found this guy to be one of the most wonderful guys. Sweet, good hearted, generous--a huge leap in "class" from the sleasy, lying, alcoholics she was finding in the BAR SCENE who wanted to **** her and dump her. She's found a keeper.
I am thinking that all this stress on self-confidance by women is really a poor way for them to choose a man. What I see often is an extreme judgmentalism which prevents the women from developing true JUDGEMENT- based on facts and reality. Women need to develope an accurate perception and discernment of who a person is. The quick initial judgementalism is harsh and cold and prevents the learning and experience which develops true JUDGEMENT. THey just reject out of hand. And we (the men) are left with a lot of gratuitous rejection.
Men score (on average) much higher in Mathematical intelligence, and this is much more highly correlated with critical thinking ability. Women have quite the lead though in Verbal intelligence, but they don't have the critical thinking ability. Hence , the reliance on status, self-confidance and other signals of WORTH by the female.
That doesn't mean you can't help women think better. I did in the above example. Some of you ought to CLUE IN some of your female friends-and help them to think critically. Get them to realize that there is a distinction between Judgement-based on facts and experience and the lightening quick judgementalism they exhibit.
Geoff