She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Lucky Australia is lenient...in the US you'd be in jail in many states, with some of them considering it a felony with serious punishments(ie 5+ years in jail)I'm in Australia and have gone dui on 2 seperate occasions within one year. I represented myself on both occasions and had a perfect driving record. First was random breath test returning positive for cocaine - recieved a 1year non criminal conviction or section 10 and a fine.
8 months later I was pulled over randomly and found with 1g of cocaine in 8 seperate satties - long story short I recieved a fine and another section 10 ( very rare in court the judge said ) with 1 year of good behaviour and continued to keep my licensed and not loose any points
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What do you think of the fact that some people are repeat DUI offenders vs and others drink and drive every weekend for 20 years without any issues? Would you argue drinking and driving isn't an issue for everyone (within reason) or do you think it's ALWAYS a bad idea?I've been a victim of a 4 time repeat dui offender with no license and no insurance. The guy was traveling the wrong way down the freeway and took out another car. The wheel from that car got knocked off and **** under the car I was in(girl I was dating was driving). Wiped out the front end and radiator, ended up in the wall.
After that wreck, I call in every drunk I see on the road. I will follow them until the cops are on their tail, and it usually doesn't take very long.
I'm On the road a lot at night on weekends and drunk driving is very common.
A friend of mine has two dui's a few years ago. Spent a lot of money, was on probation.
He was real good about not drinking and driving for a while but now back to his old ways. His girlfriend recently found him passed out in his car on the side of the road.
If you can't keep it in your lane you don't need to be driving.
I'm fine with impaired driving as long as you aren't a danger to others. Driving impaired is probably less dangerous than texting while driving! If an aware observer can't detect any issues with your drunk driving then I don't see a problem.What do you think of the fact that some people are repeat DUI offenders vs and others drink and drive every weekend for 20 years without any issues? Would you argue drinking and driving isn't an issue for everyone (within reason) or do you think it's ALWAYS a bad idea?
The biggest problem I have is that most people think of drinking and driving and how it effects *them*, but don't seem to consider how it may ruinsomeone else's life, not just their own.