I'm not talking about the kind where you were dating before she moved away. I'm refering to the kind where you met her and then found out she was from another town(i.e. 2hrs away) and progressed from there(i.e. talk on the phone, went for visits). Did it actually work out? Thanks.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Anyone here in a long-distance relationship?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
i had one. It lasted for awhile and it was great (when we were together) but i would advise against. As a matter of fact, ill never do it again. Too many trust issues, too much time apart. Im still reeling over the breakup with her. Save yourself the misery, youll be glad you did.
Trust issues? For you or for her? I'm not looking for it to get too serious because there's plenty of girls in my city so I'm still dating. She's just a super cool girl so I figured, if I can have something with her, why not? Any more thoughts? Thanks.
at first we both trusted eachother completely. then once we both started hanging out with different people, our trust in eachother began to waver. then it was only a matter of time before one of us became paranoid. unfortunately, it was me first.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Is there a difference in the relationship where you meet first and THEN she moves away? I think it would fall to the same problems, would it not?Originally posted by mecca411
I'm not talking about the kind where you were dating before she moved away. I'm refering to the kind where you met her and then found out she was from another town(i.e. 2hrs away) and progressed from there(i.e. talk on the phone, went for visits). Did it actually work out? Thanks.
Yeah, I guess they probably would, but in the case where she moves away there would probably be a more solid base established. I'm just wondering if it's even possible to get to that level when it begins from far away or if it just deteriorates much faster than in the first scenario.
Would you be willing to drive more than an hour to meet up a FRIEND once every 2 weeks?Originally posted by mecca411
Yeah, I can most likely see her more often than that. She's only about 1.5 hrs away. Guess it should work then.
If not, you're being an AFC to her. Counter this by making her meet you halfway on at least 2/3rds of the dates you go with her.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Six-String Samurai
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Was in one just like you described... met her here, found out she lived in MINNESOTA. ****ing sweet mother of jello that was a stressful 11 months of my life. Her wealthy ass parents flew her out here about once every 3 months for a week or two, but god dammit that was not worth it... at least I lost my virginity with that biotch, but all I can say is that LDRs cause mucho heartache and blue balls. Learn from my mistake. Not worth it, not worth it, not worth it.
Not worth it.
Really.
Not worth it.
Really.
KiInCollege
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Unless you're sure she's LTR material (I'm talking, potentially the final girl), don't waste your time.