Kev07
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So has anyone ever tried asking a fairly good looking girl to prom when you don't really know them well (IE: say hi every now and then and really small talk)
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Anyone have experience with asking a girl you don't know well to prom?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No experience in that, but if your dateless as of right now...why not take the chance?
I still have 2 more options myself before I resort to doing that (I already know the girl wants to go with me though, so it's not a fair comparison.)
I still have 2 more options myself before I resort to doing that (I already know the girl wants to go with me though, so it's not a fair comparison.)
Not really. I have showed up to dances and asked random girls to dance though. Me and my friend made a game out of it, my friend picks a random girl I don't know to dance with (the girl has to be decent though) and I do the same for him. Of course we pick hott chicks though, cause that is the only time you get a little nervous.. but it's still a fun game to play. You should try it.
Anyway.. I would suggest trying to get to know her more? But don't wait too long, someone might ask her... and plus girls like to know way ahead of advance. I say talk to her, let her know you're interested. Then ask her. The worst that could happen is she says no. But if she feels like she doesnt know you that well, she could get to know you from the days up until prom... I mean, we still have a bit left until prom (atleast my school does...)
Anyway.. I would suggest trying to get to know her more? But don't wait too long, someone might ask her... and plus girls like to know way ahead of advance. I say talk to her, let her know you're interested. Then ask her. The worst that could happen is she says no. But if she feels like she doesnt know you that well, she could get to know you from the days up until prom... I mean, we still have a bit left until prom (atleast my school does...)
Well, keep your ears open for chicks who dates have ditched them for some reason or another.
I am going to a neighboring schools prom with a HB 8 that I am yet to have met. Her date ditched her and I know her aunt and she gave me the girls number and told me to call her. I said, hello I am "Kegger" and your Aunt "Person" told me to call you.
She was like yeah, I wanted to know if you would go to prom with me?
I was like, well.... And paused shortly and then was like, sure why not.
Worked for me...even if I really don't give a flying flip.
I am going to a neighboring schools prom with a HB 8 that I am yet to have met. Her date ditched her and I know her aunt and she gave me the girls number and told me to call her. I said, hello I am "Kegger" and your Aunt "Person" told me to call you.
She was like yeah, I wanted to know if you would go to prom with me?
I was like, well.... And paused shortly and then was like, sure why not.
Worked for me...even if I really don't give a flying flip.
Kev07
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im thinking i'll just ask her and if she says yes, set up dates to get to know her more before prom, i'm not too interested in gettingn to know her for no reason
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Yeah, I been driven to the same point as you are now. Since that BS (if you care enough to know, just look up the second post I ever made), I haven't had much luck in getting a new date. Every senior I know pretty much have a date, and due to my damn luck, the SATs are on June 2nd and prom is June 1st. This means that every Junior I know will be resting (or cramming) for the SATs. Currently after learning that, I'm just gonna ask a not so cute girl now so I can get it over with.
I did this twice, and it's not as bad as you might think...I think the secret is partly not acting as though the whole "don't know well" thing is an issue. If you frame the approach in such a way that it seems natural that you'd ask her, then the whole thing will go much more smoothly---after all, you don't want her to ever be thinking "I don't know this guy, so why should I go w/ him."
As for the dates thing, I think it could go either way. It certainly could increase the comfort level, but you don't want her to get creeped out and feel you're coming on too strong too soon. At least, that's my thinking (and how I'm handling my own situation; cf. my thread on my own issue).
As for the dates thing, I think it could go either way. It certainly could increase the comfort level, but you don't want her to get creeped out and feel you're coming on too strong too soon. At least, that's my thinking (and how I'm handling my own situation; cf. my thread on my own issue).
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EdHunter said:
yeah that's exactly what i was thinking. i may be overanalyzing this a bit but heres some things i noticed from her
1. supposedly shes hot (i dont think so too much, shes cute but nothing amazing)
2. last year for jr prom no one asked, many said they wanted to ask her or they think shes hot, but no one actually asked her until just a few weeks before prom
3. i have her in a bunch of classes, but i never really talked to her, i only talked to her a few times in knowing her for 2 years
4. she likes tall guys(im tall)
5. I have good social proof
shvt i'm overanalyzing, i'm just going to go with it and ask her.
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Ask her. There is no more to it. You better ask her or I'll personally catch a taxi to the bay area to slap you.
She will say yes. If not, she's a *****.
She will say yes. If not, she's a *****.