Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Cloudtopsun2100 said:iranian b1tches are hot! if only I knew farsi....
yani chi?? bro you tryna find someone on this forum whose in tehran?? I doubt anyone is...i reside in SoCal.lyamdb said:haha its fun to know some persian guys are here! charm&style mokhlesim dadash. vali pas kasi az tehran nis na? yeah persian bytches are really hot!
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Salam! I'm visiting Tehran this summer (June/July), so maybe we can hang. Yeah, I've never been, but I heard the scene over there is pretty nice for parties. Do you have AIM or Yahoo Messenger? I have a lot of friends/family there, so it will be very 'jaleb'lyamdb said:if anyone from tehran is here I'd love to get along. whatever you're into, you have subscribed here. so we have alot in common and maybe we can help each other out. esp if you like to work on your DJ skills.
Haha, good one.Charm&Style said:juss say "kos bedeh"
Cool! So there are some that are not really traditional/religious? I know 1 also, pretty cute too.PRMoon said:I'm seeing a persian girl. She's hot as hell and she's rich to boot. Can't beat that.
bro what part of tehran you at...im visiting in the summer too, most likely ill be in Valiasr or Shahrakeh Gharb(or however you say it lol) Anyways me and 10 or 12 of my close friends are rolling from california to tehran so we'll kick it for shure with you and attraction.lyamdb said:yeah bro I'm using yahoo messenger. my id is [email protected]
add me if you want. we can have some fun.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
man you comming here with 12 friends? COOL! :yes: that's really gonna be something aint it? Heck you'll have hell of fun! I live in Mirdamad which is close to Valiasr. Hey, Shahrake Gharb which you can simply call Shahrak is FUUUULL of chicks. Its just the right place!Charm&Style said:bro what part of tehran you at...im visiting in the summer too, most likely ill be in Valiasr or Shahrakeh Gharb(or however you say it lol) Anyways me and 10 or 12 of my close friends are rolling from california to tehran so we'll kick it for shure with you and attraction.
Thanks man. Here in Iran, its nice to notice that some people in US aren't really lured by the bad bad image projected by western media from our country. I know the government sucks but hey that's what the governments are really for isn't that?!thirtyplus said:I just want to say, as an American, that I and a huge number of other Americans are praying our President puts down the crack pipe and doesn't bomb your country. I think it is a beautiful country with a proud and beautiful people (especially the ladies) and an amazing history, and open hostilities between our two countries would be horrifying.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.