"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Anyone else here just simply ASSUME that all girls like them?

Vice

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I do.

It really makes things easier, I don't have to look for IOIs or any of that garbage, I can focus on having more fun and not caring what she thinks of me because she's already attracted to me :)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TheWayOfAllFlesh

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The difference between me and you is whilst I do believe I have the ability to attract any girl I got a big but which always seems to stop me from acting on my instincts
 

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Yea, i helps me to think that way too

not only does it build your confidence and make you stronger against rejection

often times to start to notice more IOI's.

often times girls you think might like you sometimes do actually like you. and you help that by being fun flirting with them showing that you like them too.
 

Telos

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That's a good frame to enter an interaction with. I never go into a conversation looking for IOIs or any sort of other cues, at least consciously. The idea is to make the interaction initially feel comfortable, light hearted, and then ultimately to gain enough rapport to close. How you approach almost always depends on three things:

1. The state/context of your environment
2. The frame of the woman you are approaching
3. Your direct objective of the interaction

Seduction is a process of modulating emotion into a state of attraction.
 
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