"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Anyone else here just simply ASSUME that all girls like them?

Vice

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I do.

It really makes things easier, I don't have to look for IOIs or any of that garbage, I can focus on having more fun and not caring what she thinks of me because she's already attracted to me :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheWayOfAllFlesh

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The difference between me and you is whilst I do believe I have the ability to attract any girl I got a big but which always seems to stop me from acting on my instincts
 

Ganondorf

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Yea, i helps me to think that way too

not only does it build your confidence and make you stronger against rejection

often times to start to notice more IOI's.

often times girls you think might like you sometimes do actually like you. and you help that by being fun flirting with them showing that you like them too.
 

Telos

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That's a good frame to enter an interaction with. I never go into a conversation looking for IOIs or any sort of other cues, at least consciously. The idea is to make the interaction initially feel comfortable, light hearted, and then ultimately to gain enough rapport to close. How you approach almost always depends on three things:

1. The state/context of your environment
2. The frame of the woman you are approaching
3. Your direct objective of the interaction

Seduction is a process of modulating emotion into a state of attraction.
 
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