"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Anyone else here feels like me? (in relation to female friends)

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Basically I have two female friends, friends to which I am really attached, that I see as sisters and that I would do everything in my power to help them and that I wouldn't trade for the world.

Then, I have a plethora of other female friends, but I just do not care about them. They could vanish away from my life and it wouldn't make a lick of a difference to me. To me, they are nothing but disposable material. By this, I mean they serve only to amuse me (I flirt with them, go out with them as a gang from time to time) and I would bang them if the occasion would present itself (on the contrary to my two real female friends) but that's as far as the relation goes with them.

Anyone else get this feeling from female friends/companions?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I get that feeling with all aquaintance type of occasional hangout buddies.
 
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Shivastorm_88

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it's more then occasional friends. I get that feeling among girls of my very own "gang" of friends (minus the two I mentioned).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think lots of people are like this not just to female friends though. I have lots of male friends who I wouldn't really care if I hung out with them again. I know a lot of people but I only have a couple of really close friends.
 
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