Me and girls my age just don't click for somereason most of my plates are 4 to 5 years older than me.. I'm 19.. I don't relate to women my age.. I don't care about aeropostle or holister or the ray jay show they annoy me.. anyone else have a similar problem?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
anyone else have better success with women older than them?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
War Against Betaism
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I've dated like two women that were way older than me, I didn't like it though, it was just a totally different game. What I liked though is that older women knew what they want, whereas women my age (19) are so damn undecisive.
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I can keep a older woman interested in me for 2 days and a younger woman interested in me for 2 hours. What's that saying to you guys?
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^ The point is that they seem to wait a while before rejecting me. Either way, I guess I'm not meant to get a girlfriend. Thankfully, I'm used to the ridicule and I've heard all the insults.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
the only interesting girls - one's that i'd consider dating exclusively - i've met who are my age (19) were the really driven ones (they know what they want) who are hilarious. all the other girls want to do is get drunk so they have an excuse for why they make bad decisions. they never want to make a decision if they don't have a type of "crutch" like alcohol. i've never dated older women, but i'd be willing to if i got the chance.
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Hey ol boy. this is nothing to be thankful for.nismo-4 said:
Those who face ridicule and insults have two options. Accept it, grow used to it, become uneffected by it. as you, "thankfully have". The other option is to Not Accept it, Use it to fuel the fire of self improvement, build a better you, move forward.
Seek inspiration. build determination. believe in yourself.
or believe that everything i just said was "gh3Y" and get no where.
Bible_Belt
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When I was 19, I lived with a 26 y/o. She wanted to get married, but I was smart enough not to.
At your age, older women still have novelty. When you reach your late 20's or so, you start seeing the effects of age in most women who are older than you. Then the novelty will wear off.
At your age, older women still have novelty. When you reach your late 20's or so, you start seeing the effects of age in most women who are older than you. Then the novelty will wear off.
Girls my age and me don't click because I have different worries in life than them. I'm not silver spoon fed and my relatives genuinely do nothing for me ( a 20 dollar loan here and there and a room to sleep in) I'm concerned with paying bills and stuff when these chicks my age seem to not have these issues.. which Is why I relate to women who are somewhat older than me.. I guess we have the same struggle.. and then even though I'm 19 I could easily pass for 24-25.. that doesn't help eithr..
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well, good to see some others like me. I was beginning to think it was just me. I even posted about this problem a while back...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=157467
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=157467
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You may be new to this stuff, but I musta threw in the towel. Honestly, I barely go out these days, but under no circumstances should defeat be accepted.PerfectCircle said: