"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Anyone else feel wierd about # closing in a lecture hall?

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I always feel like I'll look like a fool # closing and getting rejected in a class.. I don't really care as much if its just me and her, but in class its like ahhh everyone will see and laugh and all that. Anyone else like this, howd you get over it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Its just one of those things that you have to shrug off and laugh about.
 
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I feel weird number closing in a cemetary or an execution chamber, but certainly not a lecture hall.
 
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nobody is going to laugh at u if u number close and dont get it. Most guys seeing this will look at u and think 'i wish i had the balls to do that. and the women will say : "i wish i could meet a confident guy like that'. Number close everywhere, except if ur at a funeral.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well a lecture hall isn't really a regular pickup scene for me. I think that anyone who is a sociable enough person won't rush things when it comes to gaming girls in your class. There are tons of oppurtunies to build rapport and when you have something going on in your life (Hopefully your trying to be a DJ and not just a PUA, then you'd have a life) just ask if she'd like to come along. That's not too embarrassing to do, right? Just be patient yet persistant and something will come out of it. Talking to girls all the time is a win/win situation because even if she doesn't agree to go out with you all the other girls in the class will see you constantly talking to a girl. They'll begin to feel more comfortable in your presence and therefore be more receptive to you opening them.

That's my advice, if you feel better just number closingdo what everyone else says and get over the fear by practicing on girls out of class.
 
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