"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Anyone else experience this?

Fuglydude

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hey all,

One of the components of this site deals w/ techniques to attract women. One of the techniques that I've found works absolutely amazing is going to a club and just jamming on the dance floor by yourself. I LOVE music...and I'm a dancer (i'm not very good at all!) so just jamming at clubs is like doing drills for me. Its a great chance for me to practice and get my nervous system used to different beats.

The funny thing is...there's been many instances where I'll be jamming by myself, and there will be ample IOIs from multiple chics around me. I'm not trying to pick any of these girls up, I'm just zoning out to the music...yet these girls are interested. IOIs' I've seen range from just eye contact and smiles to "getting freaked from behind" by chics to ass-grabbing to having girls being pushed into me by their friends, etc... Also, its always fairly attractive women (HB7 and up) that seem to approach/show bolder IOIs. The weirdest thing about this "technique" (if you wanna call it that) is the "success" rate. There's literally been no bars/clubs that I can remember where I've done this for any significant time and NOT gotten consistent IOIs from atleast some chics.

I'm just wondering if anyone else gets this...I guess I'm just weird for dancing by myself...but I don't really care what anyone thinks of me, so its not like i feel socially awkward doing it. You'd think that chics would think you're an anti-social freak for dancing by yourself...so why is this technique so successful? Does anyone else experience this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Vypros

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Learning to dance is probably one of the LARGEST Don Juan weapons you can have in your arsenal.

It's one of the few things you can do to get girls to approach YOU.

Seriously, for those who don't know how to dance, LEARN TO DANCE.
 

ryannath

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So, you go and dance by yourself. I bet you look like a doofis doing that. I wouldn't go around dancing with myself, but if it works, cool.
 
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