DonJuanabe
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Info/advice appreciated.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Anyone date a girl who has ADHD? What is it like/what to watch out for???
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Short attention span, loud, does stupid sh1t for no other reason than it gets attention.
look out for ritalin in the medicine cupboard
look out for ritalin in the medicine cupboard
PrettyBoyAJ
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I messed with a girl with that a couple weeks ago. Girl is dumb as hell. Talks way too much. Weird as fk. Won't ever quit talking. Very annoying. Always in a uppity goody mood.
Most annoying girl in the world.
Most annoying girl in the world.
ADHD is a made-up disorder for which there is no actual test to physically verify the existence of.
It is used to promote dangerous drugs like Ritalin that do cause brain damage, so that the person who originally just had a nutritional deficiency then has an actual problem.
It is used to promote dangerous drugs like Ritalin that do cause brain damage, so that the person who originally just had a nutritional deficiency then has an actual problem.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
What to watch out for?
Everything. To me, no matter how hot she is, it is so not worth it. It will ruin your mind, and will never be a 'normal' relationship. It's the equivalent of you getting with a chick who has no legs and asking "How can we go mountain climbing?" Not gonna happen.
Take extra caution.
Everything. To me, no matter how hot she is, it is so not worth it. It will ruin your mind, and will never be a 'normal' relationship. It's the equivalent of you getting with a chick who has no legs and asking "How can we go mountain climbing?" Not gonna happen.
Take extra caution.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
SecondHalf
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Empty prescription bottle.
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DonJuanabe
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She definitely has it -- she told me straight up and her behavior seemed to back it (very strong/loud voice, talked a great deal, very animated, etc.). Is it simply an issue of her eventually annoying the hell out of me because she's incessant or something else? She's not BPD and I doubt she's violent so I don't know what to expect if I start dating her.
SecondHalf
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Sounds like one of those artsy types that thinks madness is cool.
ADHD is no big deal, treated or not. Frankly, it's just a label of convenience slapped on type A personalities that burn a little brighter in some areas, and sometimes less in others.
ADHD traits typical to the pseudo misdiagnosed person is easily distracted with the occasional outburst. Really no biggie.
The ones that medicate ... for a long term relationship, might actually be a perk. The meds are a stimulant. What goes up, must come down. Meaning they typically zombie or pass out earlier than you, giving you some wonderful me time!
My take on the ... "feel" of your description of this woman would make me suspect that she suffers from some bubble-head-itus more than ADHD.
Really, this is no biggie (the ADHD part anyway).
SH
ADHD is no big deal, treated or not. Frankly, it's just a label of convenience slapped on type A personalities that burn a little brighter in some areas, and sometimes less in others.
ADHD traits typical to the pseudo misdiagnosed person is easily distracted with the occasional outburst. Really no biggie.
The ones that medicate ... for a long term relationship, might actually be a perk. The meds are a stimulant. What goes up, must come down. Meaning they typically zombie or pass out earlier than you, giving you some wonderful me time!
My take on the ... "feel" of your description of this woman would make me suspect that she suffers from some bubble-head-itus more than ADHD.
Really, this is no biggie (the ADHD part anyway).
SH