DonJuanabe
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Info/advice appreciated.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Anyone date a girl who has ADHD? What is it like/what to watch out for???
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Purefilth
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Short attention span, loud, does stupid sh1t for no other reason than it gets attention.
look out for ritalin in the medicine cupboard
look out for ritalin in the medicine cupboard
PrettyBoyAJ
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I messed with a girl with that a couple weeks ago. Girl is dumb as hell. Talks way too much. Weird as fk. Won't ever quit talking. Very annoying. Always in a uppity goody mood.
Most annoying girl in the world.
Most annoying girl in the world.
ADHD is a made-up disorder for which there is no actual test to physically verify the existence of.
It is used to promote dangerous drugs like Ritalin that do cause brain damage, so that the person who originally just had a nutritional deficiency then has an actual problem.
It is used to promote dangerous drugs like Ritalin that do cause brain damage, so that the person who originally just had a nutritional deficiency then has an actual problem.
VladPatton
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What to watch out for?
Everything. To me, no matter how hot she is, it is so not worth it. It will ruin your mind, and will never be a 'normal' relationship. It's the equivalent of you getting with a chick who has no legs and asking "How can we go mountain climbing?" Not gonna happen.
Take extra caution.
Everything. To me, no matter how hot she is, it is so not worth it. It will ruin your mind, and will never be a 'normal' relationship. It's the equivalent of you getting with a chick who has no legs and asking "How can we go mountain climbing?" Not gonna happen.
Take extra caution.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
SecondHalf
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Empty prescription bottle.
SH
SH
DonJuanabe
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She definitely has it -- she told me straight up and her behavior seemed to back it (very strong/loud voice, talked a great deal, very animated, etc.). Is it simply an issue of her eventually annoying the hell out of me because she's incessant or something else? She's not BPD and I doubt she's violent so I don't know what to expect if I start dating her.
SecondHalf
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Sounds like one of those artsy types that thinks madness is cool.
ADHD is no big deal, treated or not. Frankly, it's just a label of convenience slapped on type A personalities that burn a little brighter in some areas, and sometimes less in others.
ADHD traits typical to the pseudo misdiagnosed person is easily distracted with the occasional outburst. Really no biggie.
The ones that medicate ... for a long term relationship, might actually be a perk. The meds are a stimulant. What goes up, must come down. Meaning they typically zombie or pass out earlier than you, giving you some wonderful me time!
My take on the ... "feel" of your description of this woman would make me suspect that she suffers from some bubble-head-itus more than ADHD.
Really, this is no biggie (the ADHD part anyway).
SH
ADHD is no big deal, treated or not. Frankly, it's just a label of convenience slapped on type A personalities that burn a little brighter in some areas, and sometimes less in others.
ADHD traits typical to the pseudo misdiagnosed person is easily distracted with the occasional outburst. Really no biggie.
The ones that medicate ... for a long term relationship, might actually be a perk. The meds are a stimulant. What goes up, must come down. Meaning they typically zombie or pass out earlier than you, giving you some wonderful me time!
My take on the ... "feel" of your description of this woman would make me suspect that she suffers from some bubble-head-itus more than ADHD.
Really, this is no biggie (the ADHD part anyway).
SH