"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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anybody pressed for time?

styles07

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I was just wondering if any of you have extremely busy schedules. I'm wondering how you work in trying to ignite/maintain a social life with an abnormally busy schedule? I left full time work for part time work/full time grad school and have almost no free time now. It seems that I had at least an inkling of a social life before. Anyway, just looking for feedback on how you find time?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Centaurion

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I'm in law school now, and I don't have the time to take a real crap. My craps have to be intervalled so I can keep to my rigid schedual (I'm lucky if I get 1 min to lirk one out). My day looks like this :

6am - get up
8-10am - class
10am-12pm - study group
12-4pm - study
4-10pm - work
11pm - get home, eat, sleep

I usually take sundays off and try to do stuff with my friends, but more often than not, I'm tired as hell so I just vegatete in front of the TV.

I am spinning some plates at school and have some FBs on speed dial, besides that I don't have any real social life. Yes it can svck sometimes, but the end justifies the means.
 

Chrispy

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You simply have to make time for it. I find the more busy i am and the less time i have, the more i value my free time. When i'm too free though one tends to get bored and to not really play a good social dating game (wanting too much and thinking too much about it)!
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Microsoft Outlook or any other PIM is your ally. You have to schedule your free time just as any class or meeting. The time is there once you commit yourself to a schedule.
 

Bible_Belt

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I am in law school, too, and I eventually had to cut out my drinking and partying. Hangover recovery time was eating up too much of my schedule.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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STR8UP

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My social life has definitely taken a hit since I started having to work 60-70 hours per week.

The good thing is that over the past year or two I have built a pretty strong social network. Now I have a few different groups of people that I do things with regularly (when I find free time) and this allows me to meet even more people.

I would have a much harder time making new connections if I didn't have such a good foundation already built.
 

amoka

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Microsoft Outlook or any other PIM is your ally. You have to schedule your free time just as any class or meeting. The time is there once you commit yourself to a schedule.
I agree on this one. I have Nokia 6620 and have all my schedules sent to the phone. Doing this, I get a LOT of free time than I had imagine. Try it. Get a symbian OS phone and have all your daily activities sent to it. It really helps.
 
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