"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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anybody pressed for time?

styles07

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I was just wondering if any of you have extremely busy schedules. I'm wondering how you work in trying to ignite/maintain a social life with an abnormally busy schedule? I left full time work for part time work/full time grad school and have almost no free time now. It seems that I had at least an inkling of a social life before. Anyway, just looking for feedback on how you find time?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Centaurion

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I'm in law school now, and I don't have the time to take a real crap. My craps have to be intervalled so I can keep to my rigid schedual (I'm lucky if I get 1 min to lirk one out). My day looks like this :

6am - get up
8-10am - class
10am-12pm - study group
12-4pm - study
4-10pm - work
11pm - get home, eat, sleep

I usually take sundays off and try to do stuff with my friends, but more often than not, I'm tired as hell so I just vegatete in front of the TV.

I am spinning some plates at school and have some FBs on speed dial, besides that I don't have any real social life. Yes it can svck sometimes, but the end justifies the means.
 

Chrispy

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You simply have to make time for it. I find the more busy i am and the less time i have, the more i value my free time. When i'm too free though one tends to get bored and to not really play a good social dating game (wanting too much and thinking too much about it)!
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Microsoft Outlook or any other PIM is your ally. You have to schedule your free time just as any class or meeting. The time is there once you commit yourself to a schedule.
 

Bible_Belt

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I am in law school, too, and I eventually had to cut out my drinking and partying. Hangover recovery time was eating up too much of my schedule.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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STR8UP

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My social life has definitely taken a hit since I started having to work 60-70 hours per week.

The good thing is that over the past year or two I have built a pretty strong social network. Now I have a few different groups of people that I do things with regularly (when I find free time) and this allows me to meet even more people.

I would have a much harder time making new connections if I didn't have such a good foundation already built.
 

amoka

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Microsoft Outlook or any other PIM is your ally. You have to schedule your free time just as any class or meeting. The time is there once you commit yourself to a schedule.
I agree on this one. I have Nokia 6620 and have all my schedules sent to the phone. Doing this, I get a LOT of free time than I had imagine. Try it. Get a symbian OS phone and have all your daily activities sent to it. It really helps.
 
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