"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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anybody pressed for time?

styles07

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I was just wondering if any of you have extremely busy schedules. I'm wondering how you work in trying to ignite/maintain a social life with an abnormally busy schedule? I left full time work for part time work/full time grad school and have almost no free time now. It seems that I had at least an inkling of a social life before. Anyway, just looking for feedback on how you find time?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Centaurion

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I'm in law school now, and I don't have the time to take a real crap. My craps have to be intervalled so I can keep to my rigid schedual (I'm lucky if I get 1 min to lirk one out). My day looks like this :

6am - get up
8-10am - class
10am-12pm - study group
12-4pm - study
4-10pm - work
11pm - get home, eat, sleep

I usually take sundays off and try to do stuff with my friends, but more often than not, I'm tired as hell so I just vegatete in front of the TV.

I am spinning some plates at school and have some FBs on speed dial, besides that I don't have any real social life. Yes it can svck sometimes, but the end justifies the means.
 

Chrispy

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You simply have to make time for it. I find the more busy i am and the less time i have, the more i value my free time. When i'm too free though one tends to get bored and to not really play a good social dating game (wanting too much and thinking too much about it)!
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Microsoft Outlook or any other PIM is your ally. You have to schedule your free time just as any class or meeting. The time is there once you commit yourself to a schedule.
 

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I am in law school, too, and I eventually had to cut out my drinking and partying. Hangover recovery time was eating up too much of my schedule.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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STR8UP

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My social life has definitely taken a hit since I started having to work 60-70 hours per week.

The good thing is that over the past year or two I have built a pretty strong social network. Now I have a few different groups of people that I do things with regularly (when I find free time) and this allows me to meet even more people.

I would have a much harder time making new connections if I didn't have such a good foundation already built.
 

amoka

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Microsoft Outlook or any other PIM is your ally. You have to schedule your free time just as any class or meeting. The time is there once you commit yourself to a schedule.
I agree on this one. I have Nokia 6620 and have all my schedules sent to the phone. Doing this, I get a LOT of free time than I had imagine. Try it. Get a symbian OS phone and have all your daily activities sent to it. It really helps.
 
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