Maxtro
Master Don Juan
I've come to the conclusion that nothing has a more negative effect on attracting women and having a fulfilling social life than being depressed. In fact I believe that having serious trouble with women is actually a symptom of depression.
The most important thing when attracting women is your confidence and self-esteem. When one is depressed those traits are usually very low thus making it hard to attract anybody. An often said expression is, "How can somebody love you if you don't love yourself?" Obviously if you are depressed, hate your life and possibly contemplate suicide, you don't love yourself. Also with depression, motivation is almost non-existent.
I would not be surprised if there are several people on this board who have been diagnosed as depressed and possibly many more who are depressed but they don't know it as such.
I know I have been depressed for most of my adult life. I believe I may have had dysthymia since I was 13, possibly younger. I've seen a few counselors and was on Zoloft for a few months several years back. Nothing really helped.
For most of the last school semester I was seeing a university psychologist (intern) which made me feel slightly better being able to really talk to somebody about exactly how I feel without fear of judgment. Unfortunately she was a woman who was actually younger than I am and an intern; I believe those factors contributed to her not being able to really help me.
On our second to last session she gave me a sheet listing cognitive disorders and I think I had 8 out of 10. She recommended that I make an appointment with a case manager that would possibly refer me to an organization that does cognitive behavior therapy. The school counseling was free and if I do get outside therapy it would cost money, how much I don't know. I'm a full-time student and I don't work and the only money I have is a living allowance that I received from my mom who got a lot of money when her father died. I am very lucky to have this money. If need be I can probably ask her for more money to cover the therapy.
One thing I'm worried about is if cognitive behavioral therapy is even worth the time and money. I wholeheartedly believe that my depression is caused by a lack of women in my life and that it will be fixed if I got a girl. Though that just might be a cognitive distortion. I also don't know if it's even possible to get a girl with my current mental state.
Is there anybody out there that has overcome a depression? How was it done? What did it cost? Any general advice?
The psychologist recommend that I read Feeling Good: The new mood therapy by David Burns. The book has definitely helped see that I am depressed and which areas I really suffer in but it has done a terrible in actually job fixing them. What really pisses me off is that 3/4ths of the examples are women. It's got to be a bad sign when I'm getting mad at a book that is supposed to help me. Although several of the tests have been eye opening to the least.
The most important thing when attracting women is your confidence and self-esteem. When one is depressed those traits are usually very low thus making it hard to attract anybody. An often said expression is, "How can somebody love you if you don't love yourself?" Obviously if you are depressed, hate your life and possibly contemplate suicide, you don't love yourself. Also with depression, motivation is almost non-existent.
I would not be surprised if there are several people on this board who have been diagnosed as depressed and possibly many more who are depressed but they don't know it as such.
I know I have been depressed for most of my adult life. I believe I may have had dysthymia since I was 13, possibly younger. I've seen a few counselors and was on Zoloft for a few months several years back. Nothing really helped.
For most of the last school semester I was seeing a university psychologist (intern) which made me feel slightly better being able to really talk to somebody about exactly how I feel without fear of judgment. Unfortunately she was a woman who was actually younger than I am and an intern; I believe those factors contributed to her not being able to really help me.
On our second to last session she gave me a sheet listing cognitive disorders and I think I had 8 out of 10. She recommended that I make an appointment with a case manager that would possibly refer me to an organization that does cognitive behavior therapy. The school counseling was free and if I do get outside therapy it would cost money, how much I don't know. I'm a full-time student and I don't work and the only money I have is a living allowance that I received from my mom who got a lot of money when her father died. I am very lucky to have this money. If need be I can probably ask her for more money to cover the therapy.
One thing I'm worried about is if cognitive behavioral therapy is even worth the time and money. I wholeheartedly believe that my depression is caused by a lack of women in my life and that it will be fixed if I got a girl. Though that just might be a cognitive distortion. I also don't know if it's even possible to get a girl with my current mental state.
Is there anybody out there that has overcome a depression? How was it done? What did it cost? Any general advice?
The psychologist recommend that I read Feeling Good: The new mood therapy by David Burns. The book has definitely helped see that I am depressed and which areas I really suffer in but it has done a terrible in actually job fixing them. What really pisses me off is that 3/4ths of the examples are women. It's got to be a bad sign when I'm getting mad at a book that is supposed to help me. Although several of the tests have been eye opening to the least.