"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Anybody in UT(Utah) Bountiful area?
- Thread starter Eiljwa
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Z Man
Don Juan
Are you a Mormon by chance? I am and feel I am walking a thin line sometimes between being a DJ and waiting until marriage for sex, etc.
Z Man
Don Juan
Young Mormon women are encouraged to date a RM (returned missionary) thus feeding the myth that you have to serve a mission. Unfortunately, it seems that while men on missions are encouraged to interact and persuade others to "convert" and be baptized, they are not allowed to be alone with women, nor think about sex, no hugs, etc. almost to the point of shame if you do!
I'm not slamming my religion as a whole or the doctrine I believe, only in some of the culture over the last generation that has warped some of our minds into thinking sexual thoughts are evil, therefore many of us become AFC and are afraid to touch women.:nono:
It has taken me years to lose my fear of touch and therefore I no longer fear women and like them more.
Didn't mean to go offtopic. So, other Utahns in this forum?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.