"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Anybody here ever mess around with professional match maker services?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
abroad? I want a relationship, not just to get my **** wet
All you people online who talk Chad this and Chad that. I really don't know if dating is easy even for Chads. There is a dude at my gym who is your stereotypical chad - Puerto Rican light skinned 6'0 180 lbs 7% bf (8 pack abs), male model face, lots of tattoos. I've seen him try to chat up women 2 or 3 times who all blew him off pretty quickly. Another dude at my gym is a 6'1 very good looking white guy...has never had any dating success either. I'm a pretty good looking guy myself - at least in that 7/10 range for Latino/Middle Eastern men and I get nothing.
Women are insanely difficult nowadays. Fruitbat, I have everything going for me - great income, great friends, great lifestyle, etc...
sazc
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Same ol rant
Dave, just try the matchmaking service. In fact, why not try it and you can author athread letting everyone know what the journey is like getting set up, matched, and what the when and dates are like
RangerMIke
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Make plans to do what you want to do then invite chicks along... this does a couple of things. It guarantees you'll have some fun because you are doing what you enjoy. Second, if you are doing what you like... and the chick goes along with it and has fun doing the same thing, it's the best way to find a chick that likes you and that is compatible. Take the lead and see if she follows.
backseatjuan
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Right this moment you can create a profile on love.mail.ru, without standing up from your arse, set location to Erevan, and tell in your profile that you live in U.S., make six figures, etc, and looking for a serious relationship. Even though you're short, and average, money is a great equalizer, money plus American citizenship, and you're at least an 8, you qualify for those btches.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Crown
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That person you're looking for won't complet you; but destroy you more. If you're not happy in your life being single, you won't be happy once you'll be in a (serious) relationship.
mrgoodstuff
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It would be wise to communicate to ALL women and maintain communication with women who like talking to you. Fat, skinny, old and young and different ethnicities. Talking to women is a huge part of the game. But also so is getting laid. You are going to hear the same advice until people stop talking to you or you get sick and tired of not having results. You need results. At this point in time you will not make it with most "hot" girls because youll be heavily penalized for not being in the game. Adios.
MatureDJ
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I can speak from experience that this works. Of course when I say that I am in St. Pete, it is the truth.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.