You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
abroad? I want a relationship, not just to get my **** wetJust go abroad provided you have something to offer a woman. Millions of girls quite happy with a western dude who’s a normal guy, you don’t need to be chad anywhere other than the west
Same ol rantabroad? I want a relationship, not just to get my **** wet
All you people online who talk Chad this and Chad that. I really don't know if dating is easy even for Chads. There is a dude at my gym who is your stereotypical chad - Puerto Rican light skinned 6'0 180 lbs 7% bf (8 pack abs), male model face, lots of tattoos. I've seen him try to chat up women 2 or 3 times who all blew him off pretty quickly. Another dude at my gym is a 6'1 very good looking white guy...has never had any dating success either. I'm a pretty good looking guy myself - at least in that 7/10 range for Latino/Middle Eastern men and I get nothing.
Women are insanely difficult nowadays. Fruitbat, I have everything going for me - great income, great friends, great lifestyle, etc...
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I can speak from experience that this works. Of course when I say that I am in St. Pete, it is the truth.Stop looking for a relationship! It's not hot when a guy is looking for a relationship, period. It's not hot when dude is looking straight up for sex only either!
Right this moment you can create a profile on love.mail.ru, without standing up from your arse, set location to Erevan, and tell in your profile that you live in U.S., make six figures, etc, and looking for a serious relationship. Even though you're short, and average, money is a great equalizer, money plus American citizenship, and you're at least an 8, you qualify for those btches.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.