"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Any tips to last longer in bed?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Following_of_Me
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Following_of_Me said:
Yeah its just so discouraging though. We fvcked twice last night and I think I'm lasting shorter or something. I think I'm really psyching myself out or something. In addition, I noticed that I can't seem to *** when I'm on my back and she's sucking me off and when I'm in the "sitting down position" and she's sucking me off I *** a lot quicker. Maybe is this psychological? I don't know.
Is there a threshold or something so I might be able to tell if I actually have a problem or not? We just fvcked not even 20 minutes ago and again I didn't last very long at all, and that was probably the 7th or 8th time we've fvcked. Should I try using a condom? She's on birth control so I usually don't wear a hat and it feels so great, how much longer can you last using a condom?
eaglez1177
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Or, jerk off a few hours before to relieve the urge to jizz.
Following_of_Me
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Yeah I get what you're saying, it's very discouraging. I actually found early on it was difficult for me to *** when getting head. But turns out, I really just don't like head. It feels great, but it causes me to like the girl a lot less. And with that particular girl, I'd have trouble getting off during sex, which I relate to the fact that I really wasn't very into her. She was attractive, but I had no feelings for her, and I feel like it made a difference.Brighty said:
And yeah, a condom reduces sensitivity, and may help you out. And it's always a good thing to wear anyway, birth control or otherwise, it's better to be safe.
Lastly, I wouldn't recommend masturbating before sex. The only reason I say this is because with your situation, I feel like if you do that, yes it will make it more difficult to ***, but it may be difficult to hold an erection where you are already stressing out about things. I'd recommend instead, just try to not stress so much about it. Relax, every guy has trouble early on, nobody is born a sex god.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Well, I ended up following the kegals guide that was posted a few posts up and did one session of kegals exercises and we ended up fvcking again a few hours ago and I ended up lasting like 10-15 minutes or so. Maybe it was because we changed positions (instead of missionary on the bed, she was laying on the bed and I was standing and fvcking her while holding up her legs), maybe it was because I already blew my load earlier that day when we fvcked, and maybe it was the kegals. But either way, that definately helped out my confidence and proved to myself that I could pleasure a woman. Hell, she kept on saying how good it was after we fvcked and she was all giggly and mushy around me afterward.Following_of_Me said:
Really felt good. I'm going to keep doing the kegals for sure. That kind of sex felt so much better than just the quickie sex, knowing how good it made her feel and the exhaustion I had afterward was so rewarding for me. I never heard her moan like that before, her arms and legs were so tightly wrapped around my body, it was amazing.
Skydiver43127
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I believe you actually have to clinch during sex to stop the ejaculation.TizZle said:
From my understanding, you can still experience the orgasm, but if no ejaculate comes out, you can keep going for some reason? It's like something to do with tantric sex and having multiple male orgasms.
I'm still working on kegels but not seeming to make a lot of progress...
brokenupinside
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Lets see,it's a diferent kind of orgasm,low intensity compared to the "regular" one.
All I know is that it works for me ,I can start and stop and start again.
For example if I have a "date" with my gf,I start at 10 am and depending how late she can stick around it's 8pm and Im still doing her,of course we break for lunch and she asks for time out now and then but she loves the fact that unlike ANY of her past lovers I last unlimited time.......the only weak link is her,when she's done with her 15 orgasms then I let go of mine.
MAkes me wonder how my ex is doing with her new 10 min fat boy.........
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I think anti-depressants are supposed to weaken sex drives. That's reason enough not to use it unless you actually suffer from depression. TI think taking viagra and highly caffeinated drugs is a bad idea. That doesn't seem like a long term solution worth trying.
RangerMIke
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Yep.. not recommending you take drugs that are not prescribed, buy Tramidol, Ultram, any minor pain bills that deadened nerves works. You can also get numbing cream at your local sex store, never used it myself, but I've heard this works too.
Other than that, just keep having sex, eventually you learn to control what's going on. You learn how stimulate her, without stimulating yourself, when to slow down, when to start... this comes with experience.
In my way younger days, I used to strap on an extra condom... that worked like a charm.