"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Any tips to last longer in bed?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Following_of_Me
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Following_of_Me said:
Yeah its just so discouraging though. We fvcked twice last night and I think I'm lasting shorter or something. I think I'm really psyching myself out or something. In addition, I noticed that I can't seem to *** when I'm on my back and she's sucking me off and when I'm in the "sitting down position" and she's sucking me off I *** a lot quicker. Maybe is this psychological? I don't know.
Is there a threshold or something so I might be able to tell if I actually have a problem or not? We just fvcked not even 20 minutes ago and again I didn't last very long at all, and that was probably the 7th or 8th time we've fvcked. Should I try using a condom? She's on birth control so I usually don't wear a hat and it feels so great, how much longer can you last using a condom?
eaglez1177
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Or, jerk off a few hours before to relieve the urge to jizz.
Following_of_Me
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Yeah I get what you're saying, it's very discouraging. I actually found early on it was difficult for me to *** when getting head. But turns out, I really just don't like head. It feels great, but it causes me to like the girl a lot less. And with that particular girl, I'd have trouble getting off during sex, which I relate to the fact that I really wasn't very into her. She was attractive, but I had no feelings for her, and I feel like it made a difference.Brighty said:
And yeah, a condom reduces sensitivity, and may help you out. And it's always a good thing to wear anyway, birth control or otherwise, it's better to be safe.
Lastly, I wouldn't recommend masturbating before sex. The only reason I say this is because with your situation, I feel like if you do that, yes it will make it more difficult to ***, but it may be difficult to hold an erection where you are already stressing out about things. I'd recommend instead, just try to not stress so much about it. Relax, every guy has trouble early on, nobody is born a sex god.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well, I ended up following the kegals guide that was posted a few posts up and did one session of kegals exercises and we ended up fvcking again a few hours ago and I ended up lasting like 10-15 minutes or so. Maybe it was because we changed positions (instead of missionary on the bed, she was laying on the bed and I was standing and fvcking her while holding up her legs), maybe it was because I already blew my load earlier that day when we fvcked, and maybe it was the kegals. But either way, that definately helped out my confidence and proved to myself that I could pleasure a woman. Hell, she kept on saying how good it was after we fvcked and she was all giggly and mushy around me afterward.Following_of_Me said:
Really felt good. I'm going to keep doing the kegals for sure. That kind of sex felt so much better than just the quickie sex, knowing how good it made her feel and the exhaustion I had afterward was so rewarding for me. I never heard her moan like that before, her arms and legs were so tightly wrapped around my body, it was amazing.
Skydiver43127
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I believe you actually have to clinch during sex to stop the ejaculation.TizZle said:
From my understanding, you can still experience the orgasm, but if no ejaculate comes out, you can keep going for some reason? It's like something to do with tantric sex and having multiple male orgasms.
I'm still working on kegels but not seeming to make a lot of progress...
brokenupinside
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Lets see,it's a diferent kind of orgasm,low intensity compared to the "regular" one.
All I know is that it works for me ,I can start and stop and start again.
For example if I have a "date" with my gf,I start at 10 am and depending how late she can stick around it's 8pm and Im still doing her,of course we break for lunch and she asks for time out now and then but she loves the fact that unlike ANY of her past lovers I last unlimited time.......the only weak link is her,when she's done with her 15 orgasms then I let go of mine.
MAkes me wonder how my ex is doing with her new 10 min fat boy.........
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I think anti-depressants are supposed to weaken sex drives. That's reason enough not to use it unless you actually suffer from depression. TI think taking viagra and highly caffeinated drugs is a bad idea. That doesn't seem like a long term solution worth trying.
RangerMIke
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Yep.. not recommending you take drugs that are not prescribed, buy Tramidol, Ultram, any minor pain bills that deadened nerves works. You can also get numbing cream at your local sex store, never used it myself, but I've heard this works too.
Other than that, just keep having sex, eventually you learn to control what's going on. You learn how stimulate her, without stimulating yourself, when to slow down, when to start... this comes with experience.
In my way younger days, I used to strap on an extra condom... that worked like a charm.