"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Any tips to last longer in bed?
- Thread starter Brighty
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Following_of_Me
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Following_of_Me said:
Yeah its just so discouraging though. We fvcked twice last night and I think I'm lasting shorter or something. I think I'm really psyching myself out or something. In addition, I noticed that I can't seem to *** when I'm on my back and she's sucking me off and when I'm in the "sitting down position" and she's sucking me off I *** a lot quicker. Maybe is this psychological? I don't know.
Is there a threshold or something so I might be able to tell if I actually have a problem or not? We just fvcked not even 20 minutes ago and again I didn't last very long at all, and that was probably the 7th or 8th time we've fvcked. Should I try using a condom? She's on birth control so I usually don't wear a hat and it feels so great, how much longer can you last using a condom?
eaglez1177
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Or, jerk off a few hours before to relieve the urge to jizz.
Following_of_Me
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Yeah I get what you're saying, it's very discouraging. I actually found early on it was difficult for me to *** when getting head. But turns out, I really just don't like head. It feels great, but it causes me to like the girl a lot less. And with that particular girl, I'd have trouble getting off during sex, which I relate to the fact that I really wasn't very into her. She was attractive, but I had no feelings for her, and I feel like it made a difference.Brighty said:
And yeah, a condom reduces sensitivity, and may help you out. And it's always a good thing to wear anyway, birth control or otherwise, it's better to be safe.
Lastly, I wouldn't recommend masturbating before sex. The only reason I say this is because with your situation, I feel like if you do that, yes it will make it more difficult to ***, but it may be difficult to hold an erection where you are already stressing out about things. I'd recommend instead, just try to not stress so much about it. Relax, every guy has trouble early on, nobody is born a sex god.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Well, I ended up following the kegals guide that was posted a few posts up and did one session of kegals exercises and we ended up fvcking again a few hours ago and I ended up lasting like 10-15 minutes or so. Maybe it was because we changed positions (instead of missionary on the bed, she was laying on the bed and I was standing and fvcking her while holding up her legs), maybe it was because I already blew my load earlier that day when we fvcked, and maybe it was the kegals. But either way, that definately helped out my confidence and proved to myself that I could pleasure a woman. Hell, she kept on saying how good it was after we fvcked and she was all giggly and mushy around me afterward.Following_of_Me said:
Really felt good. I'm going to keep doing the kegals for sure. That kind of sex felt so much better than just the quickie sex, knowing how good it made her feel and the exhaustion I had afterward was so rewarding for me. I never heard her moan like that before, her arms and legs were so tightly wrapped around my body, it was amazing.
Skydiver43127
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I believe you actually have to clinch during sex to stop the ejaculation.TizZle said:
From my understanding, you can still experience the orgasm, but if no ejaculate comes out, you can keep going for some reason? It's like something to do with tantric sex and having multiple male orgasms.
I'm still working on kegels but not seeming to make a lot of progress...
brokenupinside
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Lets see,it's a diferent kind of orgasm,low intensity compared to the "regular" one.
All I know is that it works for me ,I can start and stop and start again.
For example if I have a "date" with my gf,I start at 10 am and depending how late she can stick around it's 8pm and Im still doing her,of course we break for lunch and she asks for time out now and then but she loves the fact that unlike ANY of her past lovers I last unlimited time.......the only weak link is her,when she's done with her 15 orgasms then I let go of mine.
MAkes me wonder how my ex is doing with her new 10 min fat boy.........
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I think anti-depressants are supposed to weaken sex drives. That's reason enough not to use it unless you actually suffer from depression. TI think taking viagra and highly caffeinated drugs is a bad idea. That doesn't seem like a long term solution worth trying.
RangerMIke
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Yep.. not recommending you take drugs that are not prescribed, buy Tramidol, Ultram, any minor pain bills that deadened nerves works. You can also get numbing cream at your local sex store, never used it myself, but I've heard this works too.
Other than that, just keep having sex, eventually you learn to control what's going on. You learn how stimulate her, without stimulating yourself, when to slow down, when to start... this comes with experience.
In my way younger days, I used to strap on an extra condom... that worked like a charm.