Squy
Master Don Juan
Any size of crowd, from 5 to 500 people. What is the secret of the public speakers?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Any tips for talking to a crowd of people? (nervousness)
- Thread starter Squy
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
for me, I tend to lay most of the focus at looking at one person. I might "look over" the crowd from time to time, but I don't really "look"... then shift to look at another person...
atleast that works for me.
//Deus
atleast that works for me.
//Deus
ghazala
Don Juan
My Dad used to teach that we should never think others as superior or inferior to us. That helped me ... I can speak to anyone / crowds without getting butterflies in my tummies ... by the way I have the habit of looking into the eyes of others while talking (one on one basis ofcourse)
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