"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Any shot to still salvage this?

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- Successfully gamed stripper. Got her digits.. talked a little...by the end of the night she's dying to hang with me the next day at the beach. I blow her off to go to a sporting event
- Couple days later we workout together. I did this purposely because I wanted to see how attracted I really was to her before I took her out to dinner.
- I She says we can go out to breakfast sometime.
- I ask her out for breakfast, she says ok then realized she can't because she had to help her dad with surgery. I give up, tired of her crazy schedule and delete her number. Sure enough she texts me a few days later. I finally told her flat out

me "Your schedule doesn't work for me"
her "Im working every night trying to pay my bills this month. And the day time is usually my time to run errands"
me "make me one of your errands"
me "know this, a girl thats out with me has a lot better chance of being seen (she wants to get into acting) than any dancer at any club. Have a good christmas"

Then she sends me a three five paragraph text "I was actually in the middle of texting you back...I don't care who Im seen with...Im not some random girl..people know who I am..etcetc"

I realized I may of dissed her a bit so I sent her a text the next day saying "Look I didn't mean your not going to be anybody. I just don't like waiting for ****. I like going for chicks when they are fresh in my head"

No response. The last thing I want to do is go to the strip club to see her but I feel like it may be necessary at this point. At one time she was chasing me...schedules got in the way and it fizzled out.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Her “errands” probably include banging random guys she meets at the club for cash.

You should stay away from this chick as she’s no good for you. Try getting your dyck wet elsewhere. If you do hook up with her you’ll probably post about her being BPD a few weeks later.

A stripper trying to get into acting? That’s so cliched it’s not even worth me talking about
 
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- Successfully gamed stripper. Got her digits.. talked a little...by the end of the night she's dying to hang with me the next day at the beach. I blow her off to go to a sporting event
- Couple days later we workout together. I did this purposely because I wanted to see how attracted I really was to her before I took her out to dinner.
- I She says we can go out to breakfast sometime.
- I ask her out for breakfast, she says ok then realized she can't because she had to help her dad with surgery. I give up, tired of her crazy schedule and delete her number. Sure enough she texts me a few days later. I finally told her flat out

me "Your schedule doesn't work for me"
her "Im working every night trying to pay my bills this month. And the day time is usually my time to run errands"
me "make me one of your errands"
me "know this, a girl thats out with me has a lot better chance of being seen (she wants to get into acting) than any dancer at any club. Have a good christmas"

Then she sends me a three five paragraph text "I was actually in the middle of texting you back...I don't care who Im seen with...Im not some random girl..people know who I am..etcetc"

I realized I may of dissed her a bit so I sent her a text the next day saying "Look I didn't mean your not going to be anybody. I just don't like waiting for ****. I like going for chicks when they are fresh in my head"

No response. The last thing I want to do is go to the strip club to see her but I feel like it may be necessary at this point. At one time she was chasing me...schedules got in the way and it fizzled out.
Hate to ask, but...

Who are YOU? That people can become famous by standing next to you? Lol.
 

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Her “errands” probably include banging random guys she meets at the club for cash.

You should stay away from this chick as she’s no good for you. Try getting your dyck wet elsewhere. If you do hook up with her you’ll probably post about her being BPD a few weeks later.

A stripper trying to get into acting? That’s so cliched it’s not even worth me talking about
I know she’s has bpd. I just wanna bang her. She’s young enough and hasn’t been dancing long enough to where she’s not in full stripper mode yet...I don’t think she’s tricking on the side.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I heard a wise man once say, "I don't chase. I replace." He was a black guy lol

The solution lies somewhere in there. A woman is a kitten with one man and a **** with another. She bends over backwards, she swallows his load, takes it in the pooper, and comes back for more. The next man she cucks, she flakes, she ghosts. Its about that dominance hierarchy.
 

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That’s hilarious, I seem to remember that you got to this forum because of a previous BPD run in… What’s your IQ ?
That’s hilarious, I seem to remember that you got to this forum because of a previous BPD run in… What’s your IQ ?
Depends how you look at it. BPD are great in bed, usually make great friends (passionate and crazy) fun to party with...I just wouldn't get in a relationship with one of them again.
 

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I heard a wise man once say, "I don't chase. I replace." He was a black guy lol

The solution lies somewhere in there. A woman is a kitten with one man and a **** with another. She bends over backwards, she swallows his load, takes it in the pooper, and comes back for more. The next man she cucks, she flakes, she ghosts. Its about that dominance hierarchy.
Well I am talking to other women. I still want to bang her though. That ass is worth it...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why do you seem to never learn from your mistakes??

I'm not wasting any more typing, sorry.
 

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You're done already. You got a plan and moves and you're trynna show her "who's man" LOL quit trying so hard, will ya?

Guys here think this is some kind of world where by acting tough, they become tough; by acting busy, they become busy. It does not work like that, guys. Quit trying to cut it short. Most guys here are even worse than the women who flake. They are clowns, trying to "play" their way into *****. Good luck with that.
 
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You're done already. You got a plan and moves and you're trynna show her "who's man" LOL quit trying so hard, will ya?

Guys here think this is some kind of world where by acting tough, they become tough; by acting busy, they become busy. It does not work like that, guys. Quit trying to cut it short. Most guys here are even worse than the women who flake. They are clowns, trying to "play" their way into *****. Good luck with that.
And you're the "real" Mr. Photographer?

That's not even a job.
 

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Little Richy got excited cause apparently he identified with some of what I said LOL
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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OK, whatever floats your boat :)
 

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Well I am talking to other women. I still want to bang her though. That ass is worth it...
That is not an argument. run tight game. You don't compromise your integrity because of ***** or how a woman looks which given SMV and the way women squander it, it simply does not last. Hit it or next set her.
 
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