Dhoulmagus
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Why lol
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Any reason on why we go nc for two weeks if a girl become flakey/unresponsive
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
mrgoodstuff
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Because it's a waste of time. It's like tennis or ping pong, you can't just keep popping balls in her court and she doesn't return them. She has to hit it back or you guys aren't playing together.
logicallefty
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It messes with their minds and sometimes that makes them change their ways and they end up being with you. But even if they don't, you always win anyway and walk away with something even better than the woman; your integrity.
mrgoodstuff
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Integrity, dignity and self-respect....
All it is is not rewarding bad behavior. When you still jump to them when they are flaking and minimizing whats important for you, you are rewarding bad behavior, and their selfish monster gets bigger and bigger.
Not being available, doing it back to them, nc, shrinks that selfish monster and gives it a repercussion.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It's also to strike a good contrast to other men. Other, blue pill men will make excuses for the lack of response ("women are busy too," "maybe she never got the message," etc.) and continue to text as if the silence is not a response.
I'll pose a follow-up thought - it should be even more apparent when a woman is unresponsive via text but after your message is delivered, even days later, you see her posting on social media from the same device. I've found very little value in "letting her know that I know" her silence equals deliberately ignoring me. Just file the information away for future reference about her track record toward you.
I'll pose a follow-up thought - it should be even more apparent when a woman is unresponsive via text but after your message is delivered, even days later, you see her posting on social media from the same device. I've found very little value in "letting her know that I know" her silence equals deliberately ignoring me. Just file the information away for future reference about her track record toward you.
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I dumped my gf for 3 weeks because she got pissed at me for something. I told her to go find something else then. 3 weeks no contact. Then she answers comes back our relationship is hotter than before. I stopped pissing her off though.
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There's no such thing as "no contact" as a method. Don't talk to people who aren't interested in you. It's that simple.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
mrgoodstuff
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It sure is disrespect to yourself. You also elevate her for her poor behavior.
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Why the f**k do guys waste their time on uninterested chicks? If something is going nowhere, cut and run. If a woman wants to be with you, she'll make it happen. If not, she'll find any excuse not to get with you.
Case closed. Thread closed. It really is that simple.
Case closed. Thread closed. It really is that simple.
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