"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Any reason on why we go nc for two weeks if a girl become flakey/unresponsive

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It messes with their minds and sometimes that makes them change their ways and they end up being with you. But even if they don't, you always win anyway and walk away with something even better than the woman; your integrity.
 

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It messes with their minds and sometimes that makes them change their ways and they end up being with you. But even if they don't, you always win anyway and walk away with something even better than the woman; your integrity.
Integrity, dignity and self-respect....

All it is is not rewarding bad behavior. When you still jump to them when they are flaking and minimizing whats important for you, you are rewarding bad behavior, and their selfish monster gets bigger and bigger.

Not being available, doing it back to them, nc, shrinks that selfish monster and gives it a repercussion.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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To tell yourself and to tell her that you are half way of dropping her and one more "no response" from her you are dropping her completely.
 

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It's also to strike a good contrast to other men. Other, blue pill men will make excuses for the lack of response ("women are busy too," "maybe she never got the message," etc.) and continue to text as if the silence is not a response.

I'll pose a follow-up thought - it should be even more apparent when a woman is unresponsive via text but after your message is delivered, even days later, you see her posting on social media from the same device. I've found very little value in "letting her know that I know" her silence equals deliberately ignoring me. Just file the information away for future reference about her track record toward you.
 

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I dumped my gf for 3 weeks because she got pissed at me for something. I told her to go find something else then. 3 weeks no contact. Then she answers comes back our relationship is hotter than before. I stopped pissing her off though.
 

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Go NC coz she not that into you..move on to someone who is...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You do it for your own self esteem. When you chase a girl too much all your doing is disrespecting yourself. Your relationship with yourself is comes first and is the most important one you'll have.
 

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You do it for your own self esteem. When you chase a girl too much all your doing is disrespecting yourself. Your relationship with yourself is comes first and is the most important one you'll have.
It sure is disrespect to yourself. You also elevate her for her poor behavior.
 

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Why the f**k do guys waste their time on uninterested chicks? If something is going nowhere, cut and run. If a woman wants to be with you, she'll make it happen. If not, she'll find any excuse not to get with you.

Case closed. Thread closed. It really is that simple.
 
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