"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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any overweight DJs who succeed in women

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......just wanted to know... :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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chicksrock

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in my experience
when i lost weight..
i gained more confidence
i knew that i am now good enough to score HBs...
HB's will find me sexy..and i DESERVE HB's.....

that's all the differrence weight made to my game

if you already have the confidence and KNOW you are good enuf ... then you are well on your way
 

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When I was overweight I barely got any interest at all, except maybe two or three girls, and even then I didn't have the confidence to pursue them. But I hated being fat and carried it like a burden.

My friend, on the other hand, was very fat, but he was also extremely confident in himself. He was no ladies man and no woman ever approached him, but he made it happen for himself. He was a bit of a joker and good fun to be around, he'd hit on girls all the time and just make conversation with women in the street. They were rarely sexually interested in him, but most of them couldn't resist having a laugh with him, so he nearly always got a lot of positive responses.

But at the heart of it, he didn't take bullsh*t. If anyone ran him down because he was fat, he'd shoot back at them and had this great ability to humiliate anyone, regardless of who they were and how great they looked.
 
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If you are overweight/unattractive you have to be on the offensive with women. Like DirtHeart said. Hillside strangler Angela Buono was no attractive man, but he had a harem of women he courted. Go Alpha but not loco..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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...so you say that the main theme is confidence, right?
 

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Lots of overweight pickupartists, DJs I have no idea, the DJ term is just lame anyways since most people here are as suave as a dog.

I would suggest anyone that is interested in getting laid, getting over their fears etc to buy gunwitch new book and also attend some workshops like badboy and maybe start reading MASF since it's more about getting laid than whining about how you put on your socks to dare to talk to a 7 year old girl.
 

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I'd say - the main theme is losing weight.

Women judge us basing on looks! When you look fat, you show that you don't take care of yourself, you can't commit yourself (can't commit to not eating so much), you most probably can't dance and move. You are assumed to be a non-sexual friend material until you prove otherwise.

When you drop that weight and begin to look good, you begin to get eye contact from random girls, you get better reactions and they assume that you are a lover material unless you prove otherwise.

I've been fat, now I'm thin. I know what I'm talking about.

Lose that weight, it will take less effort than learning to DJ with your current condition.
 

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I should add that the aforementioned friend did have a lot of girlfriends and flings (a LOT more than me), but there wasn't one that I'd rate above a 5.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm overweight... and ugly... :mad: I can do something bout the overweight part... but it isnt my fault why im ugly. Thats how God created me... :(

But still I'm getting more success compared to the thinner and more "handsome" ones... :)

Looks only give u 10% advantage... So, I still have my 90%... :D
 

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Originally posted by neobrood
I'm overweight... and ugly... :mad: I can do something bout the overweight part... but it isnt my fault why im ugly. Thats how God created me... :(

But still I'm getting more success compared to the thinner and more "handsome" ones... :)

Looks only give u 10% advantage... So, I still have my 90%... :D
I disagree... It completely depends on how the person is. If the guy is EXTREMELY Obesse, then it's not likely he'll do well with the hotties... But being a little pudgy never hurt anyone.
 

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It completely depends on how the person is.
I got size 40 waistline...

can still run, can still move about, can still bend and touch the floor, can still do pushups and situps...

So i'm not really an extreme obese... :D
 

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Neobrood, you probably aren't genetically ugly at all, you just need to bring out your best features. I had a 40" waistline too and I accepted that I was "just ugly". My facial features looked kind of splayed and rounded. Since I lost the weight, I look totally different and I started to realise that girls dig my high cheekbones, which weren't noticeable before.

Don't accept that you're ugly because it's probably not true.
 

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Originally posted by neobrood
I'm overweight... and ugly... :mad: I can do something bout the overweight part... but it isnt my fault why im ugly. Thats how God created me... :(

But still I'm getting more success compared to the thinner and more "handsome" ones... :)

Looks only give u 10% advantage... So, I still have my 90%... :D
While it IS true that most hot women are not attracted to fat guys, (and I know this from firsthand experience)
"ugly" truely IS in the eye of the beholder. So make the best of what you got to maximize your potential. Get in shape, wear nice clothes, brush your teeth, take a bath etc. In addition to looking your best, which will go along way in the right direction, as you are looking your best, your confidence will rise, which as we know, is also very attractive to the ladies. We can't all be Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise, but we can all make the best of what we got.
Every "Dog" has his day! ;)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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