"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Any of you try to recover one after being AFC

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So I met this girl a while back and was severely AFC. I was texting a bunch etc. Since then, I've got some plates spinning, did a complete 180 and havent' had any contact with this girl in weeks and haven't seen her in probably a month. I was trying change while we were still engaging in conversations but it was more difficult when there are zero options, so I basically just blew it up. I k closed her and that's about it. Now that I have some options and have a much better feel of what I'm doing, is there any recovery here? Can I send a ping text or call her out of the blue or just let it go? It's almost as if I want to try to recover this one just to prove something to myself now and not because I'm hung up on it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Trying to prove something still comes from a place of neediness even if your intentions aren't to get her back - you are still trying to qualify. Do not fool yourself.


Wait til she reaches out to you or you run into her. Be the man and take it from there.

Seems like you are a rookie - I recommend the DJ bible and bouncing around this site to learn what governs attraction with women in the meantime.
 
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If you've got plates spinning then what is the point? She doesn't matter.
 
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Dgwizdal said:
Trying to prove something still comes from a place of neediness even if your intentions aren't to get her back - you are still trying to qualify. Do not fool yourself.


Wait til she reaches out to you or you run into her. Be the man and take it from there.

Seems like you are a rookie - I recommend the DJ bible and bouncing around this site to learn what governs attraction with women in the meantime.
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I get what you're saying about the intentions and I've been searching around here off and on. I'm super busy now and I think what killed me with this girl was the lack of options and I was on break so I had TONS of time on my hands.

Anyway, Ill just wait. Several weekends ago she texted me to ask what I was doing but I was passed out from a long day and didn't get back to her till late. She pulled the same thing on me the night after. It was stupid and incredibly telegraphed from her end. I didn't get back to her & haven't heard from her since so Ill just keep doing my new thing and get more options. Thanks man.
 
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